Departure – A story for compromise

Where have we reached? Which direction are we going? Have we expected this? I was with my oldest friend. We started our lives together on this earth on the same date in the same village. What a miracle we are together since then – in school, in service and after retirement. So we are one soul. We know each other better than our parents.

God has given us full support with his blessings. But at the last stage of life, my friend is very disturbed because of his granddaughter. She was good in health and wealth but her married life’s conditions took the shelter of court for friendly separation after three years of married life. He was perturbed. Whatever was earlier considered unacceptable, is happening friendly nowadays. No one wants to compromise or tolerate odds. Why should only I? This question is worse than hell. In our time society, relatives and family members could not tolerate or accept such thinking. Marriage means, being together forever. It is made in heaven. But, now it has a different approach. My life is mine. My decision is for my welfare. My and I are first. My family and your family or many other factors are also playing roles.

All changes in the thinking and society took full review in our minds. We were happy and together in paucity.  Now, our limitations appeared lovely. We had roots intact and love to love all. Our homes were first on the priority list. Our expectations and anticipations were close-knit with family, friends and society. 

We accept that women have been the worst sufferers due to full dependency on males in the family.  We had realised it in our lives at early stages. We had seen restrictions on girl students – no more movements, no liberty, limited education and full obedience. We had read about many improvements but problems were there because of a lack of education and independence. We had realised the position of women in villages and encouraged our daughters to get full education for independence.

We accept that our daughters took care of their daughters and our granddaughters are financially independent, ready to take decisions and courageous to face problems. They are doing better and giving messages to be educated. They have taken the opportunities.

We are both friends and have witnessed developments and growth in resources of education and support to girls to be free of plights seen by their predecessors. But a new type of problem differentiating villages and cities in regards to the availability of essential facilities has taken place. Villagers went to cities, though living in miserable situations there, did not want to return to their native places. Old people from the village may not live with their sons and relatives in the city because of outsiders’ feelings, restrictions and lack of a healthy climate etc.

Everyone in the village was having a relationship, and helping attitude during thick and thin. They were one. They had news of all. These things are missing in cities. Most of the population migrated from villages, like leaves separated from original trees and flying with the mercy of the wind. So, the history of many families is not known in the city. But in villages, such is not the case of missing family history. These all help in making discussions and taking decisions. It is very informative for an institution like marriage. It is somewhat missing in cities. Most of the marriages are solemnised only on discussions between the two aspirants or through matrimonial sites where the roles of elders in the family are to agree only. After marriages, in most cases, turmoil starts because of a lack of submission, compromise, healthy dialogue and huge differences in views. Besides these financial matters, male dominating ego, financial independence of females and family’s interference on both sides are also aggravating the relationships. Then the roles of courts for separations and freedom from misery come.

My oldest friend’s granddaughter was also prey to all such nuances and the matter was in court for friendly separation. But separation is always harmful and should not be encouraged. Two families lose good time, money, and healthy society structures. The children of such families suffer the most. My friend was very upset about the deteriorating values of life. We are the example to foreigners of centuries-old family values and cultures. They are adopting our values and we are accepting their ” use and throw ” lifestyles. What a pity? 

My friend was weeping and I could only console him. We could only help each other. We know that the reasons may be many but education has to control the mind and thinking. In the education system, another English system is playing a role? Perhaps, we may never see daughter-in-law, mother-in-law and grandmother-in-law together to retain the traditions and culture. No doubt, everyone matters but compromise may not be ruled out. We compromise at every place – education, working places, and otherwise. But we do not want to compromise on the most important aspect of life. Why? The ego of being male or female?

Earlier we had come across a case where the husband was jailed for mischief in married life, but compromise got a place after discussion and the couple is living together. Ugly separation should be the last option.

My friend said no one may be perfect with all qualities but live together with all odds, with willpower. Arguments and differences are spices in life. Now life is not easy. It is full of tension, leading to depression. Psychological problems and monetary situations are playing roles in life. We know the repercussions of fiscal positions in behaviours. We in the village face it but have the satisfaction of not purchasing everything from the market for living and meeting both ends. Most of us have our own house and produce our items for food. We live with limited resources. But in the city where payment has to be made for everything, fiscal conditions affect life and such situations may arise if there are differences in views of life in marriage. During the economic recession, we found the end of many families in many countries due to the bankruptcy of many industries and fiscal institutions etc. Such separation was rampant.

My friend became more serious and said we should take care of the future from the very beginning of service because in this world money matters more than relationships. It may bring peace at every stage of life. It may stop separation on any basis. We have travelled from the combined to the nuclear family stage. No one is ready to sacrifice for life. Growth in a career in service is more important than family. Even children are considered a hurdle in life. Is it life where no one is to share or cheer emotions of life? We are becoming a machine. Now, education on our social and moral values is a must to avoid such separations.

I agreed with my friend but not completely. This difference is the basis of our friendship. We fight but discuss the reasons for the fight. We never forget our smiles.

Am I unbiased?

It is but natural that I pretend to be unbiased. It is also natural that it is not true. NATURE has the only option for survival of the fittest as a selection procedure. The weaker one succumbs. So unbiased is not possible. Hence, for survival, I am biased too.

It started early in childhood when I got the full support of my parents to know the facts of life for survival. Because my parents knew that the world would give the opportunity through competition for selection of path to excel but in a biased manner to maintain the quality and ecological balance in the society. So, I made myself intelligent enough to fool as unbiased but in a biased manner for survival.

Present days world’s configuration concerning the difference in social and economic developments, various religious and political thoughts etc., is due to unbiased business for mankind in the name of humanity but in a biased manner. We are divided but unbiased. It is a true but pleasure-giving fictitious and deceiving concept for inviting trouble to humankind. Even the world’s written history, whether ancient, medieval or modern may not be unbiased. All are written based on available resources which might have been influenced by the then mighty and biased kings, rulers and administration or by the interests, helplessness and nature of the writers too. This possibility may not be ruled out in any Era because we are human and need survival with comforts. Sometimes, the sword guides the pen. Indeed might is right. It is always true and applicable everywhere. In modern times, we may notice it from local to national to international level.

This quality is necessary for existence in God’s created universe. So, I am unbiased for the goodness of all in the present requirements, every time which waits for none and its opportunity knocks at the door but once-in-a-lifetime. Time and tide wait for none. I could not avoid being unbiased for self’s biased attitudes. I am too biased to be unbiased.

I think there should be some norms in various fields of life to assess the unbiased and biased nature of all. In nature, we may assess the effects and actions of natural agents in the history of earth based on their present-day’s activities. I think they are unbiased in their attitudes. Such is not the case in the human kingdom. Humans’ actions, most of the time, are biased in the present day. So, this might have been the case in the history of humans. Since humans have developed brains capable to think,  conspire and do many things, they may articulate their activities in a sophisticated manner, hiding biased attitudes with the help of modern technologies and developments. The intensities and magnitudes might be different more or less with the anticipated results of somewhat same types as existed earlier in the old time.

Our attitudes may not be exactly interpreted by humans or machines but only God may know our nature of the biased or unbiased category because he is to settle our scores of doings in his created materialistic world. He is the only player who is always unbiased to impart deserving fruits of one’s actions. 

Thieves

Legal definition of thief may be meaningful. Thieves may be categorized in places. Social norms for the categorization of thieves, in practice, may be different everywhere. Some may justify the situation-based actions of thieves. Some may identify thieves on preoccupied speculations and practices. But the legal definition of thief finally prevails.

When I see around us and think about theft,
my views summarise as – I am one of the thieves. It is true everywhere. The action of stealing may be classified as direct or indirect. The direct ones identify the person and penalise. Sometimes direct action may be because of helplessness or need-based. Occasionally inactive operational systems may be involved in such cases as instigation. Even then it is punishable. We may write or deliver at length on this type of theft. Words may be stronger, mightier, influential and encouraging but there should be remedies also. No one is born a thief.

When I say I am also a thief I agree to indirect actions. I have not utilised time and opportunities completely or wholeheartedly. If I analyse from childhood I find that I do not have rosy pictures in my memory. I have seen hoarding attitudes in humans, disproportionate to their honest, just, professional and official incomes. Most of them, though socially recognised for their lavish lifestyles, has never been noticed by the inspecting authorities or monitoring agencies. We may assume that everyone is sailing in the same boat. All such thieves are cousins. Who will bell the cat? Everyone knows the secrets of each other and loves power and not responsibilities.

Such indirect actions of theft are like varieties of worms harming wherever possible. They want to get more than their positions’ entitlements and pursue wrong practices because of greed. They are not honest to the chairs which they adore and spread corruption. These are affecting the growth of the nation, tax evasion and escalating the cost of various projects due to delays in their implementation and timely completion. The public money collected by direct and indirect taxation gets wasted. Ultimately everyone suffers. Due to corruption, the qualities of completed projects and products are not up to the prescribed standards. Most of the roads, dams, buildings and bridges etc. are damaged or collapsed untimely. All types of enquiries carried for fixing the reasons are as an eye wash to divert the rage of public and to protect all responsible fellows. In my view, responsibility is not fixed to the system only but all general public are also responsible. Where ever possible, they also enjoy contributing through their share by not matching with assigned duties. Most of them remain busy commenting on others’ work ignoring their duties.

The country remains busy most of the time in making arrangements for basic needs because of these corruptions. These activities stay upliftment of public and instigate direct stealing in general. Political parties after ascending to the thrones dictate their terms and conditions for development. Most of the time the initiated projects of development and other schemes by rival political parties, occupying the thrones earlier, appear to be futile and detrimental to the society and nation. Such projects are derailed for want of funds or modified to suit the policies of the current government. The ultimate sufferer is the public and public money. It is an unending problem.

We have provisions for legal punishment to direct thieves but we have reservations for other types of active personalities because they are the lawmakers and they have also the right to make decisions. They may twist words of law as magicians.

Ultimately, our requirements are cheated and we are deceived. We move two steps ahead and recede one step behind. Thus we are progressing in leaps and bounds. We should express thankfulness to them who are honestly doing their jobs within their limited resources. They are heroes of our time.

We are the intelligent fools that we know many things but we know nothing. We should know that not a single empire having rich history is surviving because of its reasons. It means nothing is permanent. We know neither a king nor a rich person has carried a penny with him on death even then we are mad for money. We know that we may not give assurance to generations to come for wealth or a good living even then we respect money as everything, forgetting relationships, duties and responsibilities. Money can buy many things but not honesty, God and peace. We should not be direct or indirect thieves. We should do good for the development and upliftment of society and nations. Everyone will be happy and comfortable.

All future generations will be grateful to their ancestors for their foresightedness and rituals for the meaning of life. We should encourage noble and imitative practices for the amelioration of social justice. We should be satisfied with minimum requirements to share fare deals with other creatures of nature.  

Stability

The Stability word is complete in itself. Stability in any aspect, either related with life or situation or nation or nature is imperative for evolution and developments. It is an indicator of suitability and is a must for sustainability.
We expect many kinds of stability, related with worldly as well as spiritual aspects. If we take it for granted, worldly stability inculcates  sprituality for existence of heaven on earth. As far as the worldly stability is concerned, We should look towards the giver, the nature. We know that nature is an open book. If we go through the history of origin of life on earth, it becomes evident that the first life appeared after the suitable stability in nature. Whenever, the stability is disturbed, nature’s wrath is witnessed in the form of volcanoes, earthquakes, cyclones and floods etc. to re-establish stability.
When we look towards worldly stability, our historical evidences on ancient civilisations reveal the attempts made by our ancestors towards stability, from individual to family formation to concept of societies and communities. Many civilisations were at their pinnacle of growth and stability had modern days concept of town planning and facilities of that time.

We are carrying the concepts of family and relations established from our ancestors. This has taught us as to how to take care of each other and share with each other. This type of stability should be considered first suitable step towards meeting the challenges in society, community and so on. When every thing becomes favorable, automatically peace and happiness, prevail and home becomes like heaven on earth.
The close knit family is boon as first step towards salvation.  This stability comes due to stable and permanent fiscal sources in this materialistic world. But after industrialisation and other developments of easy life making tools and instruments, the stability in a family has been disturbed to an extent that the family concept is at stake. We are getting more disturbed with developments and becoming more self oriented. We want every thing with our limited resources, mainly fiscal one. We have forgotten our efficiencies. Pandemic of this twenty first century has added fuel to the fire. The fiscal resources which are already limited, have been on the verge of exhausting. This turmoil has distracted from all the controlling concepts of balance and peace in life, in turn, affecting the journey towards sprituality. No country has been left unaffected from this pandemic.

This pandemis should be treated as open warning from stability, against rat race for unequal developments, ignoring nature’s stability. Interdependence among nations for sustainability is demand of the time. It is the time to forget individual’s supremacy. It is better to opt for minimum requirements for livelihoods to avoid distress and depression. The sprituality and world should be saved from becoming hell for stability . Otherwise nature will bear all consequences, at last and sprituality will be less meaningful.

The magic word “Should “

The grammatical use of the word” should” is not the concern  here. I have a different thought for this magical word. Everyone should walk the talk. Such are the sentences indicating the instruction  to be followed or obeyed. The word “should” simply  implies that something expected is or was missing. It expresses desire. It indicates that the special happening might have changed the person, his or her family, and society  etc. The positive or negative results affect directly as well as  indirectly having long term or short duration influence. The decision to follow  ” should ”  should be with intense care, because any one may use it with malaise intention.

Every one may give  ideas or suggestions. It may be used for self safety both as weapon and as blaming instrument also. This word ” should ” gives rise to series of questions which demarcate imperfections.

The impeachment is better than implementation. After all this is true for ever and it should not be forgotten. Enjoy, it should be healthy. Really this word is having a good time in all time. But be wise and it should be. Depending on mood – it is harsh or it is polite. It is political too.

This word is having great meaning in our life, searching peace, humanity, and sustainability etc., in this world. We should always take care of this word to move towards making the world as heaven. It is a word having a continuity towards completion. The present condition is because of this word. If you think of this word in the context of any profession, you will notice the magic of this word in achieving the mission and objectives. We should be obliged to this magical word ” should “. It is applicable every where. It is like spice. It is a tasty and inspirational word. I think that everyone has mastery in the use of this appealing word.

Love – My will

I am happy, I want love.
I am sorry, I want  love.
I am alone, I want  love. 
I am lost, I want love.

I am to dream, I want love.I am to move,
I want love. I am to stay, I want love. I am to continue, I want  love. I am to bear, I want love. I am to yield, I want love. I am to sleep, I want love. I am to sweat, I want love.

Love me to grow. Love me to love. Love me to console. Love me to play. Love me to help. Love me to hate. Love me to sow. Love me to reap. Love me to believe. Love me to live. Love me to die. Love me to swim. Love me to sink.

Love me to be sure. Love me to be confident. Love me to be me. Love me to be lovable.

Love me for others. Love me for yourself. Love me for myself. Love me for all. Love me for nothing. Love me for everything. Love me for greatness. Love me for nature. Love me for creatures. Love me for less. Love me for more. Love me for beauty. Love me for ugliness.

God I am your part, don’t depart, always love me. I am in love of love for your love.

I did in the wold what you wanted. In your world –  everyone was with me but no one was for me. Everyone loved me but not for me. I was for all but no one was for me. I had relatives but for namesake. I was borrower but no one was lender.

I am your child I want to remain like that to be innocent in my life, please accept me. I am yours, I want to be yours at last, please accept me. I am from you. I want to be lost but in you, please accept me. I want to be merged but in you. I want to be submerged but into you. I am a drop of your ocean. Please save me from nexus.

Let me be I, let me be me, let me be myself, but at last, let me be you and yours forever. Let me rest in peace.
And my, the last will  from you is, let me  remember my mother always, even with you, only. Please ignore my sin.

The question and spirituality

If we spiritually think, it becomes evident that life is a question in itself from entry to the exit from this world. The pertinent question of invisible soul may never end. But we can not yield to it and stop asking question. Question has place value, importance and may have quality.
  Every question asked has two main aspects. First the questioner wants to explore and enhance knowledge or wants to examine the answerer. Exploration may make the secrets unveiled to the world and may prove to be venom or nectar for the world and nature, depending upon the traditions and changing thoughts of humankind. Since the world’s  configuration has diversity in social development, biasness, regional cooperation, economic growth and opportunities to excell, the outcomes of exploration  may be useful or useless accordingly. The views of supremacy,  dictatorship, conquer and slavery may get venomous approach towards the same favorable outcomes. Ultimate gainer or sufferer is the world and nature. So before the outcomes are to be on floor, the question on their effectiveness  should be  deeply taken care of. We know the threat and usefulness of the same technology in atom bomb making and nuclear power generation. The atom bomb is being used as threat on the existence of civilisations while nuclear energy is used for the betterment of humankind.
Question asked to examine the knowledge has many aspects of showing the right path, srength, assessing the weak points and generating crave to be one of the best in the field or it may be for mockery of the answerer. This may instigate to know more or generate hatred towards the  questioner.
Thus answers of questions may be useful or useless according to their acceptance by the beneficiaries in the world related affairs. But the same may not be true in case of spiritual world for questions on almighty. Every answer may add to the knowledge on search of the almighty. The most common question on almighty may be about existence. I myself think there is someone to look after and to control not only humans but also every creature on earth. The creator certainly might have abode to welcome all of us.
The only common thing in all creature is the soul which comes in the world on the path of love and departs on own for the love of the almighty who has assigned every one duty to perform in the world.
Every role is well defined for every soul in the nature for assistance in performing the
acts of almighty. So the questions on the almighty may have no different answers,    ” except the style in placing the words in different order “.
It is the sole purpose of the soul to make the question alive in different forms by unveiling the secrets of universe. This question related with almighty is a  bonding factor among all animals, plants and humankind. No one may exist alone but in fact assist each other for existence. This is the secret coding by the almighty. All questions to the almighty lead towards purification of soul from time to time, to do good before saying goodbye to the  world.
Love is the ultimate requirement of almighty. Questions come from love, for the love to all and for the almighty. There may not be  your God or my God. The benevolent God has no discrimination between his own creations. We are the sole reasons for such heinous crime of favoritism, for our sake to prove superiority over others and try to impose our vicious thinking by hook or by crook on weak and helpless people. Even violence, muscle power and fiscal allurements are used for this purpose to increase the followers to please the God. We ignore the godliness.
  There  are many questions but it is the only answer – the God is love and love is God. Any more question may be futile. Live whole-heartedly, God will meet us. Live for all, God will call us. God is so kind.

Four Pillars

If you want to explore the world and know the culture, traditions, different languages and living styles etc. of a place, then you have to be like a nomad, always on migration. Most of the countries or sea routes known to the world are because of this quality. If you want to imagine then you would have to close your eyes as if you are a blind. Light is not necessary for imagination. Perfection comes like that. If you want to address the world, be like a dumb. Analyses of words is must  to influence others like weapons- war or peace.  If you want to think, isolate yourself, correlate within, and visualise outer world, you will know the power of thinking.  
The outcomes of these human qualities have affected the making of civilisations and history, knowledge of many secrets of nature and universe,writing  of literatures related with all walks of life and necessities- morals, medicines,  economics, administration, rulings and duties, etc.
They are still in existence. Imaginations and thinking are mostly found in cartoons and stories related with children. They have effects on children. Even scientists are working on many of them to realise  the benefits  to humanity or security of a  nation.
At this age of life, I find that the most important  classical imagination of childhood game, I played with my friends, is the ” hide and seek”. Everyone might have certainly played this game. The lesson from this game we get is that all players become happy on their success. What a great idea on a game, no one is looser and all enjoy and remain happy.
Like wise, migration has discovered two countries- India and America. These are the two democratic countries influencing the world’s other countries in many ways.
We may have true friends and well wishers if we analyse and use words as miser. More the words and there will be more  complications in relationships.
If we miss these  four essential pillars in day to day life, then should try to imagine to migrate to develop new thinking for addressing the concern with effective words.
Every thing may change and may be modified. We may change and write fates to ensure the accuracy and flexibility according to convenience. But four pillars are necessity to humanity, civilisation, nature and world for existence.
Our ancestors have shown the way to know the world for sustainability and continuity

by Sant Kumar Sinha

Old is Gold

The old one is always gold- most valuable having manifestation of the nature. We should hold his goldenness because  he or she is leaseholder, householer, placeholder, stakeholder of our lives. He or She is at the threshold to influence us manifold. His or Her bold face unfolds golden folders of pretold doldrums scolding the time. His or Her foothold has withhold us together. His or Her smile is like marigold.

We sould always be thankful to them as we treat them as our path to begin this journey of life. They should not be neglected rather their experience and guidance may be of great use for the betterment of  society. Wherever olds are neglected down fall of the culture and fortune starts early. When they start  keeping silent in the home the fate of that family starts deteriorating day by day and doomsday starts early.

We should never forget that history repeats and we have to sail in the same boat and we may reap the fruits of whatever have been sown. There may be worse scenarios. The life is the best teacher and behavior is the path to tread in future to face the music. This is always true. The old one is a living library. They are hidden treasures. Our furure’s golden days lie in their pandora’s box.

Strategy and experience

Every creature in the world has importance and assigned job to perform in life. But in case of human being it may not be true. The natural importance in completing the life cycle is only assigned. Other activities are controlled according to the age of individual from childhood to old age through young stage. Humans have many privileges bestowed by nature as special case for appreciation of her treasure.
Among all creatures, something makes humans special in nature and that is developed brain. Humans have utilised brain for  developing a very important system of learning called education. Education is only essential need which unfurls the universe’s secrets and paves the path for meaningful complete life with due care of the nature. Education has unlimited scope but need a systematic approach which may be termed as strategies. Hence, we may consider that formulating strategies need education to be useful and purposeful.
The strategy may not be same in every case. Though education is very important, yet values and importance of experience of uneducated or lesser educated people may not be neglected. We have traditional thoughts that without proper training or education, success is doubtful. We, should also analyse that in many cases even after vigorous training, expected results are not achieved in various fields such as administration, economics and growth etc.
We may meet in life certain persons who are not educated or having minimal education but their experience mattered more and they are very successful in life. They are sometimes very useful in formulating the strategies and achieving the goals. We may get examples in field of agriculture, labour intensive work, caring and tourism etc. where local or migratory people are very friendly and helpful in making strategies and their executions. Even in field of defense they are very  useful. So raw education may be taken as tool of strategies and not as guarantee for success.
We should consider that experience comes with age and is a tool for refined approach in making strategies and taking decisions. We should  appreciate that many innovation are made based on the situation and requirements, by experience of both educated and uneducated persons. Still it is continuing. The same is true in case of making strategies. Recognition and appreciation of such people are necessary for existence and continuity of thoughts and developments. When the nature has capacity to change, we may also adapt to sustain. Change is first requirement for creation and continuity otherwise, extinction will be fate of humankind. So developmental strategies should be based on the history of nature and imagination of origin of life and survival.
Nature has shown the importance of strategies of step by step growth upto a level suitable for incarnation of humankind.
Experience may save them.