That day, I was witnessing the other face of her mild appearance. Till that time, she was in dilemma, to continue in that city or not. I knew her, as she was one of my classmates. She was not the front or back bencher. Her favourite place was in the middle but I preferred back bench for my comfort in the classroom. I had attitude from very beginning, which still continued, to wait and watch, before making companion, then friend if frequency matched. Because of that, I had only a few friends.
She became my friend one day, after many long discussions on life and its meaning. She was serious and I was always in light, joyous mood to have concentration. I had my style. One day, I dared to ask about her liking for the middle bench in the classroom. That day, I had seen, for the first time, a light mood in her, when she smiled and said to have balance between ups and downs. I had guessed that that had been a serious smile. Life needed balance to exist in this biased world for females, leaving homes for a cause – she said. That day she told about the reason of her special psychology.
She had revolted in her conservative family of a village, for higher study in university and was meeting her needs by self employment. I had got not sympathy but honours for her, since that day.
Naturally, I became more supportive to her. I could not be her shadow but a good friend was in me for her.
That day, I had seen that she had cried, as her father had given ultimatum to be back to village for marriage. Marriage was the sole responsibility of her father who was impatient to complete it for the sake of village and community. She had refused but her mother, who was supportive to her, came to settle the issue. I had met her mother, as mediator for her dreams. I got that tradition was the hindrance. She did not want to be in house, helpless like mother and grandmother fully dependent on males whether husband, brothers or sons. She knew that education could only break the ice. Her mother was worried about getting a match in community after her higher qualification.
That day, she had broken on her fate in the hands of males. She wanted to change her destiny. I knew that she was really nervous. I was also helpless. She looked towards me. I could not face her, as I was also student. Her eyes asked support. That language was silent.
That day, I immediately met to an NGO supporting females for education. She was recognised for her will and new light of hope in her life and for many other females. She grabbed the opportunity. Her mother blessed and left with encouraging words to not forget rituals and be the example, for others.
She was finally left alone to sail in the world. She started a job in the same NGO after completion of education. I was also earning in the same city and frequently meeting her as friend.
One day, during discussion it was concluded that present engagement was not the end of the tunnel. It was decided to hold commanding position through administrative services. Due to her firm attitudes, commitment and continuous preparation, she was finally on an important chair to deliver for betterment of others.
She was glorified for her achievements. The leader of her community felicitated her. Her father and relatives were abstaining from her because of their egos. But that barrier was broken when she reached her village to lay foundation stone for girls school. Her motivational speech, encouraged girls and villagers took pledge to send their girls out of village for higher education. It was a sea change in the village’s history. She was given credit for her foresightedness that education was important weapon to change destiny. Her father was also getting respect from officials and villagers. She was accepted by her father who was repenting on his traditional attitudes, under pressure of community.
I was happy to note my role in the whole changes in a life and for a good cause. But that was not the end for me. One day, in an auto taxi she reached to my office without security and entered into my chamber hurriedly. To my utter surprise, she called my home’s nick name, lovingly given by my mother. She took a seat before me and without any hitch, told that she did not want discussions on life any more, that day, because she had discussed a lot with me. She wanted to give her life and took someone’s life. She wanted to give meaning and momentum to her life for future and continuity of her legacy. I told that I could not help in that extremely private matter. She laughed and said that was our matter and no one else was involved. She had decided to give ritualistic name to our friendship for social acceptance. I discussed a lot but she had taken permission from my parents. She was knowing that I had denied marrying many times. That day, she was woman of substance, eager to excell in all aspects of life. That day, her smile attacked on my nerves. I was the sailor for her – yours faithfully.
Ultimately, she took my hand and my life for her to be one. The good deeds continued. Story of life began and got meaning by the grace of almighty for others, from that day.
We were reciprocal to each other
I want to be
I want to hate for love,
I want to check, to be speedy,
I want to loose, to be suitable,
I want to be rare, to be common,
I hide myself, to cast shadow,
I want to be myself, to be yours,
I want to fill, to be meaningful,
I want to be a gap, to be a way of flow,
I want to shrink, to cover the whole world,
I want to be criticised, to be heard,
I want to be quiet, to be useful stone,
I want to be hated, to be a star of magnet,
I want to be independent, to be restricted,
I want to be famous, to be handled,
I want to be rejected, to be acceptable,
I want to be an entry, to be used,
I want to be part, to be with me,
I want to be silent, to be known,
I want to be real, to be tried,
I want to confine, to be overviewed,
I want to be being, to be into the aggression,
I want to be dark, to be enlightened,
I want to be serious, to be individual,
I want to be gathered, to be distributed.
I want to be, to you my God, without any lust. I want to be secured in this competitive world, my lord. I want Your hand of love as my destiny. I want to be fixed in you, by you for your abode.
God, you sent me with everything, without anything. I wanted to take everything from your world, despite nothing to carry at last. I craved for everything but missed you. I knew much to remind, than to serve others. You loved me but I forgot you. I muse to be good but it is too late. I may be useful in instalments. Who is responsible? I have used you. You are God of all, for all. I want to be poor, to be rich by you.
Decision
One stitch in time saves nine. It is always advisable to get repaired the leaking roof before onset of monsoon. We may meet odd challenges due to anticipation and timely taken decisions.
Every part of a body works smoothly, coordinating each other and any disbalance is indicated in the form of problems so that timely curable measures may be taken by the owner of body. Otherwise, ignoring that, disease may silently develop and may not be cured. This is applicable everyday, everywhere, where coordinated approaches are necessities, be it a family or industry or office.
In the industrialised world mechanisation and artificial intelligence along with robots are easing execution of works in a concerted coordination. But the final decisions are to be taken by humans. However, brain may not be replaced by any invention or discovery. We may not be slave in such world, lest another political systems should develop. Perhaps racism, caste systems and religious rivalries may stall in that world with different views. Even then, brain is supreme and may not be replaced.
Humans have reached at this level of integrity after many trial and error, so final decision will always be their responsibilities, despite use of other accessories as assistance to brain’s decisions.
The scenario in the world is changing every moment. We are now more inter dependent for growth and developments. In this regard, rules and regulations are dynamic and need consideration and continuous analysis in the interest of respective country. Everyone knows weakness and strength of each other. So, now a days, rapid and accurate decisions are required in every system of a nation. Even the tiny unit has to be taken care of during decisions. Every nut and bolt play role in a vehicle. Any negligence may not be appreciable. Planning and foresightedness are required continuously.
Decision making is complicated process on large scale and needs amalgamation of various subjects. It may be influenced by affinity and by biasness specially where large number of humans are involved. Self interest should not be entertained. Biasness may cost in loosing the best brains. Many conspiracies and secrets are being unveiled where biasness, self interest or family members are involved in influencing decisions, harmful to the nation. Utmost care with open eyes and ears are required.
We may be successful in every field. Nations may flourish at the cost of others. But humanity should not be endangered. Certain problems should be fought together, hand in hand. Natural problems, for instance, are affecting the globe and need attention. If nations do not timely activate themselves then be ready to pay the price, destined by the almighty. Take care or play your duffle. Let the humanity perish or save. Decisions are required.
Any nation may be strong and powerful on certain yardstick but may never challenge nature. One may deal alone, natural problem of small extent only. Present continuing pandemic, in different waves, is the example of our limitations and helplessness. Nature has no boundaries and does not distinguish among races or religions. United we stand, divided we fall.
Decisions should be for humanity, peace and all with self identity. Every nation should be careful, as every nation is sailing in the same boat as far as nature is concerned.
Famous
Whether to be famous or not to be famous, I was confused to choose. One day, I finally decided to be famous. Now the proper method was to be adopted. I searched all possible ways in this regard but couldn’t take decision. So I decided to meet a few people for guidance.
I first met my friend and told him that I wanted to be famous. He expressed his ignorance and counter questioned me as to why did I want to be famous. I said that I did not know but I wanted to be famous. He accompanied me to assist me in search of reasons and ways in this regard.
We together met a thief and a gangster and asked ways of becoming famous. They replied because of spreading fear in public, we became famous by beating, killing and robbing them. Our names had been working now.
We did not accept such views because it was harmful to the society and we left for further meetings with people. We met one by one with teachers, businessmen, musicians, doctors and players etc. in search of reply. We were not satisfied but we found that everyone became famous by their positive devotion to profession and because of knowledge. The teacher taught students well, the doctor treated patients well, the businessman earned well and helped needy, like that. We saluted all of them but we were not satisfied because we thought this would not make famous for ever. Politicians, master of arts, sciences and psychology could not reply, acceptable to us. Even dignitaries could not reply to satiate us. Success had made most of them, arrogant, less humble and proud of their achievements.
We roamed wherever possible in search of guidance but in vain. Ultimately, we met a religious priest and asked the same question. His emphasis was on karma ( action ) without aspirations of fruits and dedication to almighty. It could take my time forever. As I was busy in my life, I left this thought.
We returned to our world of actions. We found reply in our mothers who were waiting for us on doors worrying about our absence without information.
All mothers, world over, are always famous because they sacrifice their lives for preparing the future generation and the destiny of nations. They never want anything in return. They take risks for their lives for our births and get satisfaction in our smiles. Mothers! you are always famous of all. I am indebted to you and seek your hands to cross the ocean of world, full of problems. No more words for you, as you are above all in universe. Even God has played in your lap.
Your name is only mother, mother and mother, in all periods. No thanks or words of gratitude are suitable for your stature. Every Mother is a living statue of life.
Open words to God
God of all,
At the very first instance, I express my sincere gratitude and want to know about your styles of functions. Is it discriminatory from person to person, from region to region? Do you have grudges to help? Do you take notice of your every creature? Is every thing in order in your created world? I have many questions in my mind. Most of them are because of behaviours of your most advanced creature – the humans.
‘O’ God! It is not plausible to doubt on your intentions in creating the brainy humans to enjoy and enthralling your creations but the ultimate outcomes are endangering the whole universe. Humans fighting for survival from beginning, are now fighting for supremacy over each other and have divided your land, ocean, sea and sky for their hungers for control. You are the creator and you might be knowing that humans have developed from ignorance and created their parallels, as you have created, in the form of robots which may think, beget and do impossible things beyond the scope of your humans. They have given birth to challenges, more than the happiness and solutions of problems.
I fear that these inventions of humans may create their own God or many Gods, as your most advanced creature humans have stipulated different religions and Gods, based on their beliefs. Many Gods in a few religions have taken birth on this earth from time to time to show the path of right and wrong lifestyle. But we fight from each other in the name of my God or your God and try to increase the number of followers by hook or crook to please you. You have many dates of birthdays in a year as per the will of religions.
I am thankful to you all Gods of different religions that you all have one combined, coordinated thoughts for your all creatures of earth. By your grace, there are no difference in the same group of creatures as per different thoughts in prevailing religions. I am grateful that they are similar in all respects – from physical to physiological, from birth to death and other aspects. However, their mindsets change or got modified later influenced by religious thoughts and principles.
It is, hereby, intended as request to modify the genetics of humans in the interest of universe, to induce changes in thinking, love and behaviours, so that, with all differences in attitudes, humanity should be supreme.
It is evident that you are only one God with many names. You have to get it known to the world. A change is must for both the world and yourself. Your teachings of love to everyone and treat the universe as family, have been decorative in books and are being forgotten. These are mere fashionable thoughts in stickers and written on walls and mountains. You should be ware of these things? Religions are restricting you to their visions and missions. If you pay a visit to your world, especially in the dark night, you may find the real nature and behaviours of your humans and their understanding of your teachings on love and its expansion. You may find well concerted show business in your name without or minimum essence of your love. Everyone is busy in selfishness.
All differences should vanish. I hope, you also always hope so in hope of the best for all. Creativity and sustainability should always be alive.
These are all to the God’s…… in the hope of humanity. You have to decide? You have to conclude? I have found that I am lost.
Hope is still alive.
— From your created world
Merry Christmas to all
Spread love ❤
Dreams
Dreams and works have no gender. Everyone is entitled for the both. Most of the time selection of works need dreams. Dreams are encouraging growth engine for individual, societies and nations.
A dream ascertains goal and instigates the brain for determination to tread the path for concerted efforts for fulfillment of dream. Dream of every individual may or may not be same. The prevailing situations control the fulfillment of dreams or compell for changing the dreams. Time is the strongest factor and controller of reality for dreams come true. The government’s schemes and priorities in the interests of nation create opportunities and may change dream of individual.
If we go through the priorities of nation we may analyse that the demand changed from civil engineers to agriculture officials to electronics to computer science and from IT to currently, artificial intelligence and robotics. All these changes were controlled by overall need of a country for generating employments and improving economic conditions, increasing safety and security etc. of people. The developments of neighbouring countries and relationship also control the priorities of a nation. All of these, change dreams of many from time to time.
It is said a man of principle never changes and always strides for dream. This is must and appreciable. But this is also expected that a man should be adjustable to the situations as the bending trees never break in storm and stand erect after passing of storm. Everyone should be like such trees and should wait for the congenial atmosphere for dream’s fulfillment.
If you are hungry you need food first. If your family is in trouble you have to save. You can’t ignore your responsibilities because of your dream. But you may try to fulfill your dream, the moment you think of being self reliant and get yourself in comfortable situation. There are many examples where age is no bar for fulfillment of dreams. The zeal should be alive.
Whether we agree or not financial conditions play vital role in life.
Whoever has excelled in any profession has worked hard to the maximum relentlessly. We may learn from the success stories of such achievers that there is neither short cut for fulfillment of dreams nor wrong means help achieving the dreams. If any student tops the class or institution by adopting unacceptable means then he may be happy but his dreams will seldom be fulfilled. Any one may get degree in engineering or medical from institutions accepting donations but professionally may not be useful. Most of them may be like a carpenter who quarrells with his tools because of incomplete knowledge. Any unacceptable, illegal method should not be encouraged. We should justify our dreams through our work.
In this complicated and uncertain world we may not realise our dreams alone and need well wishers and cooperation of all needed for those dreams. It is known that one swallow does not make summer. Every foundation stone in the construction of a mansion is most important and valuable. We should always have second options to avoid disappointment, if first dream fails to be materialised.
We should not be sheep and fall into the well. We should analyse our weakness and strength and pros and cons of a dream. We should choose dreams beneficial to the humanity. One fault may be annihilating.
Dream is a driving force. It should be positive to benefit the humanity and the nature. It should be imitative.
Fruits of actions
The known results oriented actions attract the most. It is inherent in our nature. We do not hesitate to react to routine calls as results are known. It is by nature that we think on actions and their results. It is beyond imagination that any action does not bear fruits. We apply our brains where we have to deal with unknown world or relations. A student knows that the result will be as per study but the future is not known. But we know about most of the actions and their results happening in nature. It is known that a seed germinates and becomes tree and bears flowers and fruits on time. The periods of various seasons in different parts of world, barring some exceptional situations, are defined. We know that all actions in nature are not fruitful to civilisations and some of them are harmful. Accordingly we remain ready for results with cautions, except in a few exceptions.
Human Life is not like that. Our lives start from unknown and end into unknown. We know that only a few actions are common in humans but the brain plays major role in many actions and results may or may not be anticipated. This complications of brain have affected the most and play main role in imagination and interpretation.
Perhaps brain enjoys and dives into unknown to drive the humans ahead for a cause. Sometimes, there may not be coordination between brain and actions, between saying and doing etc. If these are because of diseases they may be curable, otherwise, they create problems to the whole world. The selfish attitudes develop and results create more harm than good. We are witnessing political turmoil and war in different parts of world because of such type of brains. Even nature is sufferer because of the brains.
Human brain is the director of actions. Actions ultimately control results. Results may be useful or useless. Results may be beneficial or harmful. It is obvious, if we sow thorn we should not expect flower.
We have been accustomed to many activities and their results in so many years, but the technical advancements are influencing the brains and results. We, for examples, are in discussions and researching on the effects of waves emanating from mobiles and mobile towers on brains of humans of different ages. Apart from this, artificial intelligence and remotely controlled instruments and apparatuses are affecting the brains and healths. Useful researches are being used for harmful purposes. We may assume that both human civilisation and nature are at stake because of criminal brains and technical advancements.
The age old concepts of fruits of actions are same and will never change, but other developments with time throw effects on thinking, means of actions and results. Ultimately we are not controller of all types of actions. In holy book ” Gita” it is said that overall controller of fruits of actions is almighty and we are to obey him. We may only act but by order of almighty.
The day we become successful in regulating the life and death, we may expect to control fruits of actions.
Stability
The Stability word is complete in itself. Stability in any aspect, either related with life or situation or nation or nature is imperative for evolution and developments. It is an indicator of suitability and is a must for sustainability.
We expect many kinds of stability, related with worldly as well as spiritual aspects. If we take it for granted, worldly stability inculcates sprituality for existence of heaven on earth. As far as the worldly stability is concerned, We should look towards the giver, the nature. We know that nature is an open book. If we go through the history of origin of life on earth, it becomes evident that the first life appeared after the suitable stability in nature. Whenever, the stability is disturbed, nature’s wrath is witnessed in the form of volcanoes, earthquakes, cyclones and floods etc. to re-establish stability.
When we look towards worldly stability, our historical evidences on ancient civilisations reveal the attempts made by our ancestors towards stability, from individual to family formation to concept of societies and communities. Many civilisations were at their pinnacle of growth and stability had modern days concept of town planning and facilities of that time.
We are carrying the concepts of family and relations established from our ancestors. This has taught us as to how to take care of each other and share with each other. This type of stability should be considered first suitable step towards meeting the challenges in society, community and so on. When every thing becomes favorable, automatically peace and happiness, prevail and home becomes like heaven on earth.
The close knit family is boon as first step towards salvation. This stability comes due to stable and permanent fiscal sources in this materialistic world. But after industrialisation and other developments of easy life making tools and instruments, the stability in a family has been disturbed to an extent that the family concept is at stake. We are getting more disturbed with developments and becoming more self oriented. We want every thing with our limited resources, mainly fiscal one. We have forgotten our efficiencies. Pandemic of this twenty first century has added fuel to the fire. The fiscal resources which are already limited, have been on the verge of exhausting. This turmoil has distracted from all the controlling concepts of balance and peace in life, in turn, affecting the journey towards sprituality. No country has been left unaffected from this pandemic.
This pandemis should be treated as open warning from stability, against rat race for unequal developments, ignoring nature’s stability. Interdependence among nations for sustainability is demand of the time. It is the time to forget individual’s supremacy. It is better to opt for minimum requirements for livelihoods to avoid distress and depression. The sprituality and world should be saved from becoming hell for stability . Otherwise nature will bear all consequences, at last and sprituality will be less meaningful.
The magic word “Should “
The grammatical use of the word” should” is not the concern here. I have a different thought for this magical word. Everyone should walk the talk. Such are the sentences indicating the instruction to be followed or obeyed. The word “should” simply implies that something expected is or was missing. It expresses desire. It indicates that the special happening might have changed the person, his or her family, and society etc. The positive or negative results affect directly as well as indirectly having long term or short duration influence. The decision to follow ” should ” should be with intense care, because any one may use it with malaise intention.
Every one may give ideas or suggestions. It may be used for self safety both as weapon and as blaming instrument also. This word ” should ” gives rise to series of questions which demarcate imperfections.
The impeachment is better than implementation. After all this is true for ever and it should not be forgotten. Enjoy, it should be healthy. Really this word is having a good time in all time. But be wise and it should be. Depending on mood – it is harsh or it is polite. It is political too.
This word is having great meaning in our life, searching peace, humanity, and sustainability etc., in this world. We should always take care of this word to move towards making the world as heaven. It is a word having a continuity towards completion. The present condition is because of this word. If you think of this word in the context of any profession, you will notice the magic of this word in achieving the mission and objectives. We should be obliged to this magical word ” should “. It is applicable every where. It is like spice. It is a tasty and inspirational word. I think that everyone has mastery in the use of this appealing word.
NEVER THINK WHAT AFTER ME
It is misconception in older generation, as to what will be after me? What will be the future? How this new generation will handle the situation?
Such questions are commonly heard in offices and other places where experience and expertise come in due course of work’s execution and problems’ handling. The bosses express their views, opinion and vision like this and forget about their beginning.
There are no questions on age and experience but the discussion leading to discouragement in new comers at a working place may never be welcomed. Any working place should be treated as next home and behaviour of the boss should be like guardian as being father figure. The boss should know that post does provide forceful respect but real respect is earned from behaviour and attitude. Otherwise, relationships will be formal.
We should not forget that most of the workers are gathered from different places having different backgrounds. The boss should treat them as a family to extract the best from them. If boss has discipline wise, region wise, religion wise and caste wise, biased approach in dealing subordinates, the desired results may not be achieved. The working atmosphere will be venomous. All these expose the fear of boss of losing status and importance.
There is always difference in thinking and working styles in between two generations.
There may not be any excuse. The onus lies on the older generation to accommodate. Younger generation need attention and proper guidance.
If the boss does not treat the subordinates well, like sons and daughters, he or she doesn’t deserve to get respect after retirement from service. This type of grievance of non respect from subordinates is common by retired boss. It also depends upon the traditions formulated by preceeding bosses for each other. We should remember that you reap the same what you sow.
So questions of doubts on future should not be raised in sarcastic manner to humiliate new comers. New generation is always ambitious, agile and more mature. They have proved their efficiencies in studies and have capacity to excell, if get proper treatments. They have already faced tough competitions to hit the target.
There is always an exchange offer, give respect and take respect. New generation has changing attitudes- both services and bosses. They may not wait till retirement because this life will not be met second time. Because of stupid and arrogant bosses, most of the time, subordinates may leave services or take premature retirements and offices loose assets.
The situation worsens when the boss projects to be like God. This attitude is very heinous for the country and needs complete surgery to make a man in reality, a man by behaviour. Such bosses give rise to revolutionary movements against odds and they need more attentions.
The selection procedures of top bosses should be on strict norms in the interest of office and not because of seniority or some sorts of relations in higher-ups. This type of selected bosses raise questions to quench their complexes. The working atmosphere may be at stake. Boss may not be always right. Boss does not know everything because of chair.
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