Helplessness

Grief is my grievance.
Wealth is my mirage.
Wage is my incentive.
Pleasure is my flower.
Peace is my need.
The fight is my end.
Might is my dedication.
Honesty is my friend.
Jealous is my degradation.
Anger is my downfall.
Justice is my right.
Defeat is my firmness.
Failure is my path.
Comfort is my superstition.
Laziness is my enemy.
Proudness is my confusion.
Greed is my illusion.
Lust is my continuity.
Senses are my hindrance.
Knowledge is my weakness.
Wisdom is my foolishness.
Tension is my earning.
Wish is my loneliness.
Fear is my hurdle.
Word is my condition.
Expression is my emotion.
The mood is my sedition.
Truth is my problem.
Thought is my revolution.
The decision is my resistance.
Growth is my temporary phase.
Love is my will.
Generosity is my life.
Worshipping is my belief.
Religion is my faith.

I am sinking and the world is interpreting me like that. I am loosing my chance and the world is advancing like that. I am meeting the challenges and the world is changing. I am moving and the world is fixing like that. I am revealing and the world is assessing me like that. I am meaning and the world is reacting like that.

I am in the hand of the world. I am in the hand of circumstances. I want to be your pet my almighty. Here people hate living ones and love dead people. I am alive so they don’t love me. Their selfless love is nothing but show. Their respect is positional in working and conditional in notions. Their religions are situational and used as weapons of love and hate. Their worship is far from you – the reality. Greatness is their hidden agenda. You are divided. We are divided. I am helpless. May almighty make everything only one to avoid any conflict. May the world be in God’s reset mode.   

Departure – A story for compromise

Where have we reached? Which direction are we going? Have we expected this? I was with my oldest friend. We started our lives together on this earth on the same date in the same village. What a miracle we are together since then – in school, in service and after retirement. So we are one soul. We know each other better than our parents.

God has given us full support with his blessings. But at the last stage of life, my friend is very disturbed because of his granddaughter. She was good in health and wealth but her married life’s conditions took the shelter of court for friendly separation after three years of married life. He was perturbed. Whatever was earlier considered unacceptable, is happening friendly nowadays. No one wants to compromise or tolerate odds. Why should only I? This question is worse than hell. In our time society, relatives and family members could not tolerate or accept such thinking. Marriage means, being together forever. It is made in heaven. But, now it has a different approach. My life is mine. My decision is for my welfare. My and I are first. My family and your family or many other factors are also playing roles.

All changes in the thinking and society took full review in our minds. We were happy and together in paucity.  Now, our limitations appeared lovely. We had roots intact and love to love all. Our homes were first on the priority list. Our expectations and anticipations were close-knit with family, friends and society. 

We accept that women have been the worst sufferers due to full dependency on males in the family.  We had realised it in our lives at early stages. We had seen restrictions on girl students – no more movements, no liberty, limited education and full obedience. We had read about many improvements but problems were there because of a lack of education and independence. We had realised the position of women in villages and encouraged our daughters to get full education for independence.

We accept that our daughters took care of their daughters and our granddaughters are financially independent, ready to take decisions and courageous to face problems. They are doing better and giving messages to be educated. They have taken the opportunities.

We are both friends and have witnessed developments and growth in resources of education and support to girls to be free of plights seen by their predecessors. But a new type of problem differentiating villages and cities in regards to the availability of essential facilities has taken place. Villagers went to cities, though living in miserable situations there, did not want to return to their native places. Old people from the village may not live with their sons and relatives in the city because of outsiders’ feelings, restrictions and lack of a healthy climate etc.

Everyone in the village was having a relationship, and helping attitude during thick and thin. They were one. They had news of all. These things are missing in cities. Most of the population migrated from villages, like leaves separated from original trees and flying with the mercy of the wind. So, the history of many families is not known in the city. But in villages, such is not the case of missing family history. These all help in making discussions and taking decisions. It is very informative for an institution like marriage. It is somewhat missing in cities. Most of the marriages are solemnised only on discussions between the two aspirants or through matrimonial sites where the roles of elders in the family are to agree only. After marriages, in most cases, turmoil starts because of a lack of submission, compromise, healthy dialogue and huge differences in views. Besides these financial matters, male dominating ego, financial independence of females and family’s interference on both sides are also aggravating the relationships. Then the roles of courts for separations and freedom from misery come.

My oldest friend’s granddaughter was also prey to all such nuances and the matter was in court for friendly separation. But separation is always harmful and should not be encouraged. Two families lose good time, money, and healthy society structures. The children of such families suffer the most. My friend was very upset about the deteriorating values of life. We are the example to foreigners of centuries-old family values and cultures. They are adopting our values and we are accepting their ” use and throw ” lifestyles. What a pity? 

My friend was weeping and I could only console him. We could only help each other. We know that the reasons may be many but education has to control the mind and thinking. In the education system, another English system is playing a role? Perhaps, we may never see daughter-in-law, mother-in-law and grandmother-in-law together to retain the traditions and culture. No doubt, everyone matters but compromise may not be ruled out. We compromise at every place – education, working places, and otherwise. But we do not want to compromise on the most important aspect of life. Why? The ego of being male or female?

Earlier we had come across a case where the husband was jailed for mischief in married life, but compromise got a place after discussion and the couple is living together. Ugly separation should be the last option.

My friend said no one may be perfect with all qualities but live together with all odds, with willpower. Arguments and differences are spices in life. Now life is not easy. It is full of tension, leading to depression. Psychological problems and monetary situations are playing roles in life. We know the repercussions of fiscal positions in behaviours. We in the village face it but have the satisfaction of not purchasing everything from the market for living and meeting both ends. Most of us have our own house and produce our items for food. We live with limited resources. But in the city where payment has to be made for everything, fiscal conditions affect life and such situations may arise if there are differences in views of life in marriage. During the economic recession, we found the end of many families in many countries due to the bankruptcy of many industries and fiscal institutions etc. Such separation was rampant.

My friend became more serious and said we should take care of the future from the very beginning of service because in this world money matters more than relationships. It may bring peace at every stage of life. It may stop separation on any basis. We have travelled from the combined to the nuclear family stage. No one is ready to sacrifice for life. Growth in a career in service is more important than family. Even children are considered a hurdle in life. Is it life where no one is to share or cheer emotions of life? We are becoming a machine. Now, education on our social and moral values is a must to avoid such separations.

I agreed with my friend but not completely. This difference is the basis of our friendship. We fight but discuss the reasons for the fight. We never forget our smiles.

Position

I will see you. You don’t know, who am I? You will bear the consequences. These are lines, generally heard  during discussions between any authority and someone on roads or in different offices. This reflects the approach of a man and the importance of a post. Such discussions reveal that someone is applying pressure to do the wrong or to get rid off punishment and penalties etc.

Here the question is about the importance of a  man or the post held by the man. It is true that every post has been empowered with rules and regulations, for good governance and importance of post is also as per hierarchy. But lines of threatening are hurdle and instigate corruption and mitigate the importance of rules, regulations and posts. The position held is not permanent and one day, on retirement, all become same in the society. So, the importance exists in post, not in the post holder. As a common man, ones importance is in abiding the rules and regulations. So, our behaviors are most important for respect and the tags of VIP and VVIP are not permanent. Good times do not last too long.

I remember one incident’s happening, during my  journey by train. One of my friends was with me, without proper reservation. He was having an importance of being son – in – law of an officer holding very high post in bureaucracy. Because of that he was feeling comfortable for facing the ticket checker and police. I got a very good lesson to tackle such situations. I witnessed that during discussion, after listening the threat of post and probable actions against him, the police man said ” you may be whatever you say but, at first, I will beat you and ask for an excuse from your relative officer by saying that every one tells your name and try to get favour and it is true, he does know.” My friend paid the fine and got lesson that post is important but with dignity.

Human and humanity should get importance because posts in various departments in governing bodies, are created for giving services to public and rules and regulations are framed for their smooth execution, to ease the life with safety and security. So, everyone is to satisfy importance of each other but no one is above law.

It is ridiculous to think that he is more important. Everyone is important. If we observe, we find that in nature everything is important, from invisible creatures to big mammals, from thorns to flowers,  and from grass to big trees etc. The ecology of nature is balanced because of all and any disturbance may bring havoc.

Human should learn from the best teacher, the nature, about giving place to everyone.
Our attitudes of giving importance are not limited to posts in service but also in every walk of life. Intelligent students get importance in classroom and schools, human get importance in society by comparing wealth, size of house and no of cars and number of servants etc.

There are different yard sticks for defining the importance, every where. Such attitudes are detrimental to the civilisations and empower to do the wrong things and corruptions spread as termites due to misuse of power. Only respect should get priority.

Everything is important. Everyone is important. When almighty has not differentiated, we may not do like this. Every creature is doing respective business and is equally important. We should not be power crazy. Services with serving attitudes should prevail.

Decision

One stitch in time saves nine. It is always advisable to get repaired the leaking roof before onset of monsoon. We may meet odd challenges due to anticipation and timely taken decisions.

Every part of a body works smoothly, coordinating each other and any disbalance is indicated in the form of problems so that timely curable measures  may be taken by the owner of body. Otherwise, ignoring that, disease may silently develop and may not be cured. This is applicable everyday, everywhere, where coordinated approaches are necessities, be it a family or industry or office.

In the industrialised world mechanisation and artificial intelligence along with robots are easing execution of works in a concerted coordination. But the final decisions are to be taken by humans. However,  brain may not be replaced by any invention or discovery. We may not be slave in such world, lest another political systems should develop. Perhaps racism, caste systems and religious rivalries may stall in that world with different views. Even then, brain is supreme and may not be replaced.

Humans have reached at this level of integrity after many trial and error, so final decision will always be their responsibilities, despite use of other accessories as assistance to brain’s decisions.

The scenario in the world is changing every moment. We are now more inter dependent for growth and developments. In this regard, rules and regulations are dynamic and need consideration and continuous analysis in the interest of respective country. Everyone knows weakness and strength of each other. So, now a days, rapid and accurate decisions are required in every system of a nation. Even the tiny unit has to be taken care of during decisions. Every nut and bolt play role in a vehicle. Any negligence may not be appreciable. Planning and foresightedness are required continuously.

Decision making is complicated process on large scale and needs amalgamation of various subjects. It may be influenced by affinity and by biasness specially where large number of humans are involved. Self interest should not be entertained. Biasness may cost in loosing the best brains. Many conspiracies and secrets are being  unveiled where biasness, self interest or family members are involved in influencing decisions, harmful to the nation. Utmost care with open eyes and ears are required.

We may be successful in every field. Nations may flourish at the cost of others. But humanity should not be endangered. Certain problems should be fought together, hand in hand. Natural problems, for instance, are affecting the globe and need attention. If nations do not timely activate themselves then be ready to pay the price,  destined by the almighty. Take care or play your duffle. Let the humanity perish or save. Decisions are required.

Any nation may be strong and powerful on certain yardstick but may never challenge nature. One may deal alone, natural problem of small extent only. Present continuing pandemic, in different waves, is the example of our limitations and helplessness. Nature has no boundaries and does not distinguish among races or religions. United we stand, divided we fall.

Decisions should be for humanity, peace and all with self identity. Every nation should be careful, as every nation is sailing in the same boat as far as nature is concerned.

Famous

Whether to be famous or not to be famous, I was confused to choose. One day, I finally decided to be famous. Now the proper method was to be adopted. I searched all possible ways in this regard but couldn’t take decision. So I decided to meet  a few  people for guidance. 

I first met my friend and told him that I wanted to be famous. He expressed his ignorance and counter questioned me as to why did I want to  be  famous. I said that I did not know but I wanted to be famous. He accompanied me to assist me  in search of reasons and ways in this regard.

We together met a thief and a gangster and asked ways of becoming famous. They replied because  of spreading fear in public, we became famous by beating, killing and robbing them. Our names had been working now.

We did not accept such views because it was harmful to the society and we left for further meetings with  people. We met one by one with teachers, businessmen, musicians, doctors and players etc. in search of reply. We were not satisfied but we found that everyone became famous by their positive devotion to profession and because of knowledge. The teacher taught students well, the doctor treated patients well, the businessman earned well and helped needy, like that. We saluted all of them but we were not satisfied because we thought this would not make famous for ever. Politicians, master of arts, sciences and psychology could not reply, acceptable to us. Even dignitaries could not reply to satiate us. Success had made most of them, arrogant, less humble and proud of their achievements.

We roamed wherever possible in search of guidance but in vain. Ultimately, we met a religious priest and asked the same question. His emphasis was on karma ( action ) without aspirations of fruits and dedication to almighty.  It could take my time forever. As I was busy in my life, I left this thought.

We returned to our world of actions. We found reply in our mothers who were waiting for us on doors worrying about our absence without information.

All mothers, world over, are always famous because they sacrifice their lives for preparing the future generation and the destiny of nations. They never want anything in return. They take risks for their lives for our births and get satisfaction in our smiles. Mothers! you are always famous of all. I am indebted to you and seek your hands to cross the ocean of world, full of problems. No more words for you, as you are above all in universe. Even God has played in your lap.

Your name is only mother, mother and mother, in all periods. No thanks or words of gratitude are suitable for your stature. Every Mother is a living statue of life.

New year’s resolution

We always think of pleasures. We always think about enjoyments. We may think for  collective approach or individually for the same. We adopt several means for extracting enjoyments and pleasures. These mood changing means affect nerve and ultimately affect the brain.

Enjoyment is a part of life’s activities. We want it to occupy the maximum part of life. We have devised many materials and resources for the same. All of them affect activities and life.

We may consider enjoyments as natural right. We have many occasions of enjoyments which may be situational and conditional. We get enjoyments from birth of a child to marriage to many activities in life in natural ways. Except these we take enjoyments artificially from consuming man made materials. These have enjoyments from short durations to long term.

We may notice in day to day life that consumptions of enjoyments emitting materials are increasing and have been fashion. Now a days, the more someone enjoys with such items is considered the more advanced and modern . We may get frequent news of such persons increasing in number.

These materials  give enjoyment for sometime and they are harmful to health and destroy money leading to bankruptcy. We may get many families starving because of such habits. These pleasure giving, heaven showing materials are initially welcomed but later become habit as addiction and consume everything of the individual. Such habits may produce criminals in long run.

We become so much habitual to them that we ignore the warnings written or known about the health hazard on their consumptions.

We should know that enjoyment is related to  mental status of individual and may not be permanently achieved from artificial resources. Our God has made us with treasure of enjoyments giving thoughts. They range from purpose specific physical to personal relations with nature, music and society etc. These may not be harmful to anyone if it is not blindly practised.

These God gifted sources of enjoyments are mainly creative and ultimately give peace to the mind, improve health and habits. They do not affect actively or passively to self or others. One may get enjoyment alone in a room or collectively in crowd.

We may get enjoyments beyond our made world, with nature’s beauty and spirituality. We may get permanent enjoyment without wandering here and there. These sources of  enjoyments make the life simple,  stable and lead to spirituality which imparts permanent pleasure beyond worldly affairs. All questions are answered in life. Even smile becomes pious and silence gets transmitted in spiritual enjoyments.  We get enjoyments in giving only.

We should use our wisdom to get enjoyments from useful sources leading to peace of mind, society and nation. We should migrate towards simplicity avoiding troublesome path affecting health and family.

The new year is starting,  with the smile of the  Sun, defeating the darkness and lighting the earth, giving meaning to every creature for continuity and sustainability. Everything happens peacefully.

Our resolution for new year should be like the Sun – remove darkness and bring happiness socially and spiritually to spread love and peace. One should help self and others in needs, avoiding artificial sources of enjoyments.

WISHING        EVERYONE    A         HAPPY  AND  PEACEFUL  ,  ENJOYMENT GIVING     NEW  YEAR




Dreams

Dreams and works have no gender. Everyone is entitled for the both. Most of the time selection of works need dreams. Dreams are encouraging growth engine for individual, societies and nations.

A dream ascertains goal and instigates the brain for determination to tread the path for concerted efforts for fulfillment of dream. Dream of every individual may or may not be same. The prevailing situations control the fulfillment of dreams or compell for changing the dreams. Time is the strongest factor and controller of reality for dreams come true. The government’s schemes and priorities in the interests of nation create opportunities and may change dream of individual.

If we go through the priorities of nation we may analyse that the demand changed from civil engineers to agriculture officials to electronics to computer science and from IT to currently, artificial intelligence and robotics. All these changes were controlled by overall need of a country for generating employments and improving economic conditions, increasing safety and security etc. of people. The  developments of neighbouring countries and relationship  also control the priorities of a nation. All of  these, change dreams of many from time to time.

It is said a man of principle never changes and always strides for dream. This is must and appreciable. But this is also expected that a man should be adjustable to the situations as the bending trees never break in storm and stand erect after passing of storm. Everyone should be like such trees and should wait for the congenial atmosphere for dream’s fulfillment.

If you are hungry you need food first. If your family is in trouble you have to save. You can’t ignore your responsibilities because of your dream.  But you may try to fulfill your dream, the moment you think of being self reliant and get yourself in comfortable situation. There are many examples where age is no bar for fulfillment of dreams. The zeal should  be alive.

Whether we agree or not financial conditions play vital role in life.
Whoever has excelled in any profession has worked hard to the maximum relentlessly. We may learn from the success stories of such achievers that  there is neither short cut for fulfillment of dreams nor wrong means help achieving the dreams. If any student tops the class or institution by adopting unacceptable means then he may be happy but his dreams will seldom be fulfilled. Any one may get degree in engineering or medical from institutions accepting donations but professionally may not be useful.  Most of them may be like a carpenter who quarrells with his tools because of incomplete knowledge. Any unacceptable, illegal method should not be encouraged. We should justify our dreams through our work.

In this complicated and uncertain world we may not realise our dreams alone and need well wishers  and cooperation of all needed for those dreams. It is known that  one swallow does not make summer. Every foundation stone in the construction of a mansion is most important and valuable. We should always have second options to avoid disappointment, if first dream fails to be materialised.

We should not be  sheep and fall into the well. We should analyse our weakness and strength and pros and cons of a dream. We should choose dreams beneficial to the humanity. One fault may be annihilating.

Dream is a driving force. It should be positive to benefit the humanity and the nature. It should be imitative.

Fruits of actions

The known results oriented actions attract the most. It is inherent in our nature. We do not  hesitate to react to routine calls as results are known. It is by nature that we think on actions and their results. It is beyond imagination that any action does not bear fruits. We apply our brains where we have to deal with unknown world or relations. A student knows that the result will be as per study but the future is not known. But we know about most of the actions and their results happening in nature. It is known that a seed germinates and becomes tree and bears flowers and fruits on time. The periods of various seasons in different parts of world, barring some exceptional situations, are defined. We know that all actions in nature are not fruitful to civilisations and some of them are harmful. Accordingly we remain ready for results with cautions, except in a few exceptions.

Human Life is not like that. Our lives start from unknown and end into unknown. We know that only a few actions are common in humans but the brain plays major role in many actions and results may or may not be anticipated. This complications of brain  have affected the most and  play main role in imagination and interpretation.
Perhaps brain enjoys and dives into unknown to drive the humans ahead for a cause. Sometimes, there may not be coordination between brain and  actions, between saying  and doing etc. If these are because of diseases they may be curable, otherwise,  they create problems to the whole world.  The selfish attitudes develop and results create more harm than good.   We are witnessing political turmoil and war in different parts of world because of such type of brains. Even nature is sufferer because of the brains.

Human brain is the director of actions. Actions ultimately control results. Results may be useful or useless. Results may be  beneficial or harmful. It is obvious, if we sow thorn we should not expect flower.
We have been accustomed to many activities and their results in so many years, but the technical advancements are influencing the brains and results. We, for examples, are in discussions and researching on the effects of waves emanating from mobiles and mobile towers on brains of humans of different  ages. Apart from this, artificial intelligence and remotely controlled instruments and apparatuses are affecting the brains and healths. Useful researches are being used for harmful purposes. We may assume that both human civilisation and nature are at stake because of criminal brains and technical advancements.

The age old concepts of fruits of actions are same and will never change, but other developments with time throw effects on thinking, means of actions and results. Ultimately we are not controller of all types of actions. In holy book ” Gita” it is said that overall controller of fruits of actions is almighty and we are to obey him. We may only act but by order of almighty.

The day we become successful in regulating the life and death, we may expect to control fruits of actions.

Stability

The Stability word is complete in itself. Stability in any aspect, either related with life or situation or nation or nature is imperative for evolution and developments. It is an indicator of suitability and is a must for sustainability.
We expect many kinds of stability, related with worldly as well as spiritual aspects. If we take it for granted, worldly stability inculcates  sprituality for existence of heaven on earth. As far as the worldly stability is concerned, We should look towards the giver, the nature. We know that nature is an open book. If we go through the history of origin of life on earth, it becomes evident that the first life appeared after the suitable stability in nature. Whenever, the stability is disturbed, nature’s wrath is witnessed in the form of volcanoes, earthquakes, cyclones and floods etc. to re-establish stability.
When we look towards worldly stability, our historical evidences on ancient civilisations reveal the attempts made by our ancestors towards stability, from individual to family formation to concept of societies and communities. Many civilisations were at their pinnacle of growth and stability had modern days concept of town planning and facilities of that time.

We are carrying the concepts of family and relations established from our ancestors. This has taught us as to how to take care of each other and share with each other. This type of stability should be considered first suitable step towards meeting the challenges in society, community and so on. When every thing becomes favorable, automatically peace and happiness, prevail and home becomes like heaven on earth.
The close knit family is boon as first step towards salvation.  This stability comes due to stable and permanent fiscal sources in this materialistic world. But after industrialisation and other developments of easy life making tools and instruments, the stability in a family has been disturbed to an extent that the family concept is at stake. We are getting more disturbed with developments and becoming more self oriented. We want every thing with our limited resources, mainly fiscal one. We have forgotten our efficiencies. Pandemic of this twenty first century has added fuel to the fire. The fiscal resources which are already limited, have been on the verge of exhausting. This turmoil has distracted from all the controlling concepts of balance and peace in life, in turn, affecting the journey towards sprituality. No country has been left unaffected from this pandemic.

This pandemis should be treated as open warning from stability, against rat race for unequal developments, ignoring nature’s stability. Interdependence among nations for sustainability is demand of the time. It is the time to forget individual’s supremacy. It is better to opt for minimum requirements for livelihoods to avoid distress and depression. The sprituality and world should be saved from becoming hell for stability . Otherwise nature will bear all consequences, at last and sprituality will be less meaningful.

Changes

We are rich. We are poor. The richer we become, the poorer we grow. We have the need of nectar but we are galloping venom. All are happening in our world but we have questioned our answers.

All the knowledge gained by our ancestors have given birth and death together in our lives. We respected them, we were happy. We questioned them, we are deteriorating by time. We should not forget there is no tiny place present in the sky for rest. We should learn from birds. Ground is the reality.

There are many differences between individual human but only universal common qualities are hunger and thirst, we have since birth. These two play vital roles in changes. Changes can not be avoided  or postponed at any point of time.
Changes are continuous processes. The nature is open book to learn, where changes are continuously going on.
Water controlling rivers play vital roles in changing in nature. In human kingdom,  Mother plays most important role in everyone’s life. She plays and witnesses the changes from childhood. My mother is first guru and teacher who prepared me  for changes to face the world. Her emotions, devotion and sacrifice have influenced me. She gave full care to my hunger and thirst over herself. She prepared me to be able to meet these universal common qualities after her departure.I am indebted to my mother from the moment I got place in her lap on visiting the earth, my home forever. Still I remember and feel her always by my side.
I carried forward changes in me, because of my greater than heaven like mother, as my  balances in life to face the challenges.

My thoughts were positive but I found that world was mainly business oriented and consumerism had top priority. The values of ancestors and their teachings were only available in books  and quotations.
Changes have made the whole world as global market and we are the products vying for our sale by hook or by crook.

Humans are  like machine without emotions, opposite genders are for lust and enjoyments, old values are signs of backwardness and pocket full with money is everything. Main purpose is to manage the market by inculcating the minds through hammering advertisements and enticing benefits of heaven on earth. The main slogan is” this life will not come second time”. Every thing is acceptable for this life for enjoyments without considering the morality or ethics of lifestyle.

It is acceptable that life is for one time and it is also true that life has different meanings to different humans but the world has to welcome many more generations to come. All future generations deserve their shares preserved for them. Let the world be as global family. We should cooperate, coordinate and maintain, established moral values without observing regional, communal and religious grudges or feelings. We should make harmony and respect  each other, lest the life  may be dead or hell. Our all achievements are sheer matter of pleasure for short while.

We are visiting this world and are guest so we have limited permission from nature for changes. Every high flying kite has to come down. We should do fly but land on ground. No empire is permanent, the history tells. Change in thinking is must but is fruitful if it is in positive.