Departure – A story for compromise

Where have we reached? Which direction are we going? Have we expected this? I was with my oldest friend. We started our lives together on this earth on the same date in the same village. What a miracle we are together since then – in school, in service and after retirement. So we are one soul. We know each other better than our parents.

God has given us full support with his blessings. But at the last stage of life, my friend is very disturbed because of his granddaughter. She was good in health and wealth but her married life’s conditions took the shelter of court for friendly separation after three years of married life. He was perturbed. Whatever was earlier considered unacceptable, is happening friendly nowadays. No one wants to compromise or tolerate odds. Why should only I? This question is worse than hell. In our time society, relatives and family members could not tolerate or accept such thinking. Marriage means, being together forever. It is made in heaven. But, now it has a different approach. My life is mine. My decision is for my welfare. My and I are first. My family and your family or many other factors are also playing roles.

All changes in the thinking and society took full review in our minds. We were happy and together in paucity.  Now, our limitations appeared lovely. We had roots intact and love to love all. Our homes were first on the priority list. Our expectations and anticipations were close-knit with family, friends and society. 

We accept that women have been the worst sufferers due to full dependency on males in the family.  We had realised it in our lives at early stages. We had seen restrictions on girl students – no more movements, no liberty, limited education and full obedience. We had read about many improvements but problems were there because of a lack of education and independence. We had realised the position of women in villages and encouraged our daughters to get full education for independence.

We accept that our daughters took care of their daughters and our granddaughters are financially independent, ready to take decisions and courageous to face problems. They are doing better and giving messages to be educated. They have taken the opportunities.

We are both friends and have witnessed developments and growth in resources of education and support to girls to be free of plights seen by their predecessors. But a new type of problem differentiating villages and cities in regards to the availability of essential facilities has taken place. Villagers went to cities, though living in miserable situations there, did not want to return to their native places. Old people from the village may not live with their sons and relatives in the city because of outsiders’ feelings, restrictions and lack of a healthy climate etc.

Everyone in the village was having a relationship, and helping attitude during thick and thin. They were one. They had news of all. These things are missing in cities. Most of the population migrated from villages, like leaves separated from original trees and flying with the mercy of the wind. So, the history of many families is not known in the city. But in villages, such is not the case of missing family history. These all help in making discussions and taking decisions. It is very informative for an institution like marriage. It is somewhat missing in cities. Most of the marriages are solemnised only on discussions between the two aspirants or through matrimonial sites where the roles of elders in the family are to agree only. After marriages, in most cases, turmoil starts because of a lack of submission, compromise, healthy dialogue and huge differences in views. Besides these financial matters, male dominating ego, financial independence of females and family’s interference on both sides are also aggravating the relationships. Then the roles of courts for separations and freedom from misery come.

My oldest friend’s granddaughter was also prey to all such nuances and the matter was in court for friendly separation. But separation is always harmful and should not be encouraged. Two families lose good time, money, and healthy society structures. The children of such families suffer the most. My friend was very upset about the deteriorating values of life. We are the example to foreigners of centuries-old family values and cultures. They are adopting our values and we are accepting their ” use and throw ” lifestyles. What a pity? 

My friend was weeping and I could only console him. We could only help each other. We know that the reasons may be many but education has to control the mind and thinking. In the education system, another English system is playing a role? Perhaps, we may never see daughter-in-law, mother-in-law and grandmother-in-law together to retain the traditions and culture. No doubt, everyone matters but compromise may not be ruled out. We compromise at every place – education, working places, and otherwise. But we do not want to compromise on the most important aspect of life. Why? The ego of being male or female?

Earlier we had come across a case where the husband was jailed for mischief in married life, but compromise got a place after discussion and the couple is living together. Ugly separation should be the last option.

My friend said no one may be perfect with all qualities but live together with all odds, with willpower. Arguments and differences are spices in life. Now life is not easy. It is full of tension, leading to depression. Psychological problems and monetary situations are playing roles in life. We know the repercussions of fiscal positions in behaviours. We in the village face it but have the satisfaction of not purchasing everything from the market for living and meeting both ends. Most of us have our own house and produce our items for food. We live with limited resources. But in the city where payment has to be made for everything, fiscal conditions affect life and such situations may arise if there are differences in views of life in marriage. During the economic recession, we found the end of many families in many countries due to the bankruptcy of many industries and fiscal institutions etc. Such separation was rampant.

My friend became more serious and said we should take care of the future from the very beginning of service because in this world money matters more than relationships. It may bring peace at every stage of life. It may stop separation on any basis. We have travelled from the combined to the nuclear family stage. No one is ready to sacrifice for life. Growth in a career in service is more important than family. Even children are considered a hurdle in life. Is it life where no one is to share or cheer emotions of life? We are becoming a machine. Now, education on our social and moral values is a must to avoid such separations.

I agreed with my friend but not completely. This difference is the basis of our friendship. We fight but discuss the reasons for the fight. We never forget our smiles.

Gratitude

I am not creator. I am contributor. I have always expressed my gratitude in my applications, written to the appealing authorities with selfish professionalism to extract favour from their arrogance, in  holding a God like position, in their senses.
Professionalism is always for the self first. I have done all this for my self growth and for satisfying my ego. My ego has been a driving force in my professional journey. It has shown me both short and long paths to tread in this journey of life. I opted the path as per situational demand.

I think my sense of gratitude was not by heart, so it never gave me happiness after any achievement. I was deceiting my self. I had many companions in my professional journey, posing as my well wishers in front of me. But they used to dig  my grave behind me for their egos. That was also a way of showing gratitude.

So, I understand that gratitude is a vehicle that carries everyone’s ego forward. The result of ego may be in positive or in negative, affecting the progress of units of executions. Rest lies in the hand of destiny.
Destiny is torch bearer. It is  controlled  by almighty. It is said that one can change destiny but that is also in control of almighty.

So, I think my sincere gratitude is to almighty. In my journey of life, I show my heartiest gratitude to all who have brought smile and happiness for me without expecting anything. My sincere gratitude in reality is for those who gave me experiences through their behaviours and attitudes. They have prepared me for odds and made me bold for existence. I reveal my gratitude and indebtedness to nature who has taken care of everything for my life. I have no sense of gratitude for my parents because I may not be selfish for them. My all thoughts end with them. They are my beginning and they are my termination. The lap wherein I got love,  peace, security, safety and learned lessons of life has no suitable word in any language of the world for measuring and expressing gratitude. I may reserve my will above all for them. I always miss them. My mother is above all and her lap is above God’s heaven. So, all my gratitude are to everyone visible or invisible in life’s journey.
May I give gratitude to me for always being me. I do am, my destiny. My gratitude is to destiny.

BRAIN AND MORAL VALUES

The super brain developed in human is the main concern for alround happenings in the surroundings. It has full potential to change  the scene, attitude and universe.
It is the concept that full potentials of its complicated efficiency has not been  utilized. Otherwise, the history of the world would have been different. The brain starts functioning from very first day in life and controls all activities.

Perhaps,  in the history of homosapiens brain has played vital roles beyond imagination. It has still more in store, to unveil the secrets of universe.  If we leave apart these aspects, it is of utmost importance that brain has affected and developed behaviors in humans, the most. On that basis, we differentiate the good or bad, moral or immoral and legal or illegal etc. actions or activities of any one.  These terms are respective to each other and may have different importance, in a fraction of the society, defending the need.
The same moral values for a thief, a pickpocket or starving person on one hand and a fully satisfied, rich person on the other hand have different meaning, at the same time. The difference is need based. But, it never implies that  moral values harmful to the society should be justified due to some deficiency which may be removed or rectified.

The same brain, in this regard, should provide opportunities for availability of bare minimum requirements of bread, clothing and house to maintain the morals of all, as positive.

It should not be forgotten that belly and brain have relations. When belly is full, brain works satisfactorily. This may help in developing positive, congenial and acceptable attitudes in the society.
The practice of moral values in the society is must to make it freely liveable.

It may not be ruled out, despite fulfilment of all needs, certain sections of society have hidden agenda to destablise the balance in their interests. They have always been there and will always be, as harming agents. Their definition of moral values are different and may change as per need. They deserve suitable reactions, for the sake of society and nation. There are different moral values at every stage, for every walk of life from beginning to the end of life.

All moral values are the milestones in the development of social structures and are established from the time immemorial in the history of mankind. There might have been several refinements, amendments and/ or modifications in moral values, as per changing needs and demand of time in due course of developments. We have reached at this stage after due diligence of our ancestors. We may go at length on these essential established values for academic records. But their essence in establishing peace, harmony and brother hood in the society should always be continued for betterment in future.

It should be remembered that you, he and I have limitations regarding thinking and self interests. So every step in life has impact on the structure of society through moral values. As a multi storey building stands on many columns, likewise moral values are pillars in the structure of the society. Our social structures may collapse without them, as multi storey building  collapses on damaging the basic columns of support. A minor mistake may have devastating effects. All moral values have emanated from brain, from time to time and all such values control brain for behaviors in the society . These are essentials to be continued.

Half truth

Whenever, we attend discussions in any place of substance, we go through a number of quotations and examples of historical incidents related with the topic. Such discussions influence the working and  atmosphere. If it is a gathering of students, then the attitudes change with aspirations to follow the sayings and characters of heroes and leaders etc. Many of them may be applicable and suitable in changing world but the emphasis depends upon the background of personality appealing to do so. If it is matching with personality, everyone considers in positive. Otherwise, the analytical ability of well equipped gentry may ask many questions. So walk the talk is the best way to impeach someone.

We may find, in pre-independent era, the aspirations and actions, in many cases, of public, were controlled by situations, attitudes of surroundings and behaviors of leaders. Public, on appeal of leaders were ready to sacrifice everything, even their lives. Those leaders had lived the lives what they were expecting from others. Many of them had set examples by sacrificing everything for the nation. The same continued in  post-independent era for a few years.

As the time passed and new thinkings started taking birth, aspirations and actions of people  were also influenced and  started changing. International politics and developments, in modern days, in all aspects of life are also added in the list of influencing factors. Besides, competitions, greeds, lust and cheating factors are also taking influencing sizes and need attentions.

In our social structures, it is clear that tender children get affected from surroundings, family traditions, occupation of parents, school, friends and education. When they grow and get matured, the factors, needed to meet livelihoods, play roles in behaviors’ management. These affect nation building activities. The country becomes strong or weak, depends from here on the influences of leaders and their behaviors.

We are finding that we are missing and fighting with all for self. It is a matter of respect if someone walks the talk. If activities of anyone is minutely observed, we may find gap in credibility. So example is better than percept. Such half truths may not have long life. There was a time of less education and less news spreading means. Many of things were hidden. Now, time has changed. All information are available on finger tips across the world. No one may be made fool for long time.

In the interest of nation every new generation should be well taught and sacrifices of our ancestors should be made known from very beginning in schools to make character building. Otherwise, the present may have opposite effects on future of a nation, when the self is dominating in all walks of life.

The education system should be robust and the teachers should be highest paid of all, as they make eligible all for different services in the interest of nation. If teachers and education are neglected, no nation may flourish peacefully and preachers should walk the talk.

Famous

Whether to be famous or not to be famous, I was confused to choose. One day, I finally decided to be famous. Now the proper method was to be adopted. I searched all possible ways in this regard but couldn’t take decision. So I decided to meet  a few  people for guidance. 

I first met my friend and told him that I wanted to be famous. He expressed his ignorance and counter questioned me as to why did I want to  be  famous. I said that I did not know but I wanted to be famous. He accompanied me to assist me  in search of reasons and ways in this regard.

We together met a thief and a gangster and asked ways of becoming famous. They replied because  of spreading fear in public, we became famous by beating, killing and robbing them. Our names had been working now.

We did not accept such views because it was harmful to the society and we left for further meetings with  people. We met one by one with teachers, businessmen, musicians, doctors and players etc. in search of reply. We were not satisfied but we found that everyone became famous by their positive devotion to profession and because of knowledge. The teacher taught students well, the doctor treated patients well, the businessman earned well and helped needy, like that. We saluted all of them but we were not satisfied because we thought this would not make famous for ever. Politicians, master of arts, sciences and psychology could not reply, acceptable to us. Even dignitaries could not reply to satiate us. Success had made most of them, arrogant, less humble and proud of their achievements.

We roamed wherever possible in search of guidance but in vain. Ultimately, we met a religious priest and asked the same question. His emphasis was on karma ( action ) without aspirations of fruits and dedication to almighty.  It could take my time forever. As I was busy in my life, I left this thought.

We returned to our world of actions. We found reply in our mothers who were waiting for us on doors worrying about our absence without information.

All mothers, world over, are always famous because they sacrifice their lives for preparing the future generation and the destiny of nations. They never want anything in return. They take risks for their lives for our births and get satisfaction in our smiles. Mothers! you are always famous of all. I am indebted to you and seek your hands to cross the ocean of world, full of problems. No more words for you, as you are above all in universe. Even God has played in your lap.

Your name is only mother, mother and mother, in all periods. No thanks or words of gratitude are suitable for your stature. Every Mother is a living statue of life.

Open words to God

God of all,
At the very first instance, I express my sincere gratitude and want to know about your styles of functions. Is it discriminatory from person to person, from region to region? Do you have grudges to help? Do you take notice of your every creature? Is every thing in order in your created world? I have many questions in my mind. Most of them are because of behaviours of your most advanced creature – the humans.

‘O’ God! It is not plausible to doubt on your intentions in creating the brainy humans to enjoy and enthralling your creations but the ultimate outcomes are endangering the whole universe. Humans fighting for survival from beginning, are now fighting for supremacy over each other and have divided your land, ocean, sea and sky for their hungers for control. You are the creator and you might be knowing that humans have developed from ignorance  and created their parallels,  as you have created, in the form of robots which may think, beget and do impossible things beyond the scope of your humans. They have given birth to challenges, more than the happiness and solutions of problems.

I fear that  these inventions of humans may create their own God or many Gods, as your most advanced creature humans have stipulated different religions and Gods, based on their beliefs. Many Gods in a few religions have taken birth on this earth from time to time to show the path of right and wrong lifestyle. But we fight from each other in the name of my God or your God and try to increase the number of followers by hook or crook to please you.  You have many dates of birthdays in a year as per the will of religions.

I am thankful to you all Gods of different religions that you all have one combined,  coordinated thoughts for your all creatures of earth. By your grace, there are no difference in the same group of creatures as per different thoughts in prevailing religions. I am  grateful that they are similar in all respects – from physical to physiological, from birth to death and other aspects. However, their mindsets change or got modified later influenced by religious thoughts and principles.

It is, hereby, intended as request to modify the genetics of humans in the interest of universe, to induce changes in thinking, love and behaviours, so that, with all differences in attitudes, humanity should be supreme.

It is evident that you are only one God with many names. You have to get it known to the world. A change is must for both the world and yourself. Your teachings of love to everyone and treat the universe as family, have been decorative in books and are being forgotten. These are mere fashionable thoughts in stickers and written on walls and mountains. You should be ware of these things? Religions are restricting you to their visions and missions. If you pay a visit to your world, especially in the dark night, you may find the real nature and behaviours of your humans and their understanding of your teachings on love and its expansion. You may find well concerted show business in your name without or minimum essence of your love. Everyone is busy in selfishness.

All differences should vanish. I hope, you also always hope so in hope of the best for all. Creativity and sustainability should always be alive.

These are all to the  God’s…… in the hope of humanity. You have to decide? You have to conclude? I have found that I am lost.

Hope is still alive.


—  From your created world




Merry Christmas to all 

Spread  love        ❤

Fruits of actions

The known results oriented actions attract the most. It is inherent in our nature. We do not  hesitate to react to routine calls as results are known. It is by nature that we think on actions and their results. It is beyond imagination that any action does not bear fruits. We apply our brains where we have to deal with unknown world or relations. A student knows that the result will be as per study but the future is not known. But we know about most of the actions and their results happening in nature. It is known that a seed germinates and becomes tree and bears flowers and fruits on time. The periods of various seasons in different parts of world, barring some exceptional situations, are defined. We know that all actions in nature are not fruitful to civilisations and some of them are harmful. Accordingly we remain ready for results with cautions, except in a few exceptions.

Human Life is not like that. Our lives start from unknown and end into unknown. We know that only a few actions are common in humans but the brain plays major role in many actions and results may or may not be anticipated. This complications of brain  have affected the most and  play main role in imagination and interpretation.
Perhaps brain enjoys and dives into unknown to drive the humans ahead for a cause. Sometimes, there may not be coordination between brain and  actions, between saying  and doing etc. If these are because of diseases they may be curable, otherwise,  they create problems to the whole world.  The selfish attitudes develop and results create more harm than good.   We are witnessing political turmoil and war in different parts of world because of such type of brains. Even nature is sufferer because of the brains.

Human brain is the director of actions. Actions ultimately control results. Results may be useful or useless. Results may be  beneficial or harmful. It is obvious, if we sow thorn we should not expect flower.
We have been accustomed to many activities and their results in so many years, but the technical advancements are influencing the brains and results. We, for examples, are in discussions and researching on the effects of waves emanating from mobiles and mobile towers on brains of humans of different  ages. Apart from this, artificial intelligence and remotely controlled instruments and apparatuses are affecting the brains and healths. Useful researches are being used for harmful purposes. We may assume that both human civilisation and nature are at stake because of criminal brains and technical advancements.

The age old concepts of fruits of actions are same and will never change, but other developments with time throw effects on thinking, means of actions and results. Ultimately we are not controller of all types of actions. In holy book ” Gita” it is said that overall controller of fruits of actions is almighty and we are to obey him. We may only act but by order of almighty.

The day we become successful in regulating the life and death, we may expect to control fruits of actions.

Expectation and Aspirations

There may be difference in meaning of words expectation and aspirations. But here, I treat them as twins. I am in this world due to aspiration and what I am in life is the result of expectation of parent and aspiration of self. It is difficult to conclude as to which word comes first. I think both go together as twins, hand in hand.

Expectation saves from dejection and encourage as instigation to strive. Before expectation capacity of person should be considered. Every parent or well wisher may expect more than the capacity of someone. This inculcates thought in negative leading toward unexpected consequences. Such things are happening at present. Because of parents, children are missing their childhood. They are under deep stress and deprived of outdoor games necessary for physical strength and better immunities. Parents want their children to learn subjects, painting, dancing, swimming and music etc. at one time so that they may boast of their expectations in the societies and communities. Last sufferer is the child. Parent never asks the aspiration of child who is to bear the brunt of expectation. Parents may tell their expectation without forcing children. Otherwise, this affects the life of a child. If a child gets chance to follow her or his aspiration, the result will be different. The flower may bloom in whole heartedly.

We may say that guidance is must to children for making them acquainted with worldly affairs. No work is mean and unreasonable, and unimportant. In fact every work is supportive to other works. Cleaning is as important as good governance. Teaching is as important as research works. A complete set up need all to deliver good to society and humanity.

Since we are the results of aspirations, it should get priority to expectation. Expectation may go together, as it is also necessary in assessing the requirements for our future and making decisions.
Both words silently affect all walks of life.

Whatever, we witness, in the world, are because of these two. Every one has expectation as per interest and also expect  from professionals, affecting life for comforts and ease. Even animals have expectations – live and let live.

The almighty who sends us, also has expectation for betterment of the nature and world, but our aspirations are dominating. The expectation should also be taken care to reap maximum benefits. Aspirations of all should be heard and considered for natural growth, suitable training and proper developments. Both are important. Aspire to expect. You are expected to expire.

Stability

The Stability word is complete in itself. Stability in any aspect, either related with life or situation or nation or nature is imperative for evolution and developments. It is an indicator of suitability and is a must for sustainability.
We expect many kinds of stability, related with worldly as well as spiritual aspects. If we take it for granted, worldly stability inculcates  sprituality for existence of heaven on earth. As far as the worldly stability is concerned, We should look towards the giver, the nature. We know that nature is an open book. If we go through the history of origin of life on earth, it becomes evident that the first life appeared after the suitable stability in nature. Whenever, the stability is disturbed, nature’s wrath is witnessed in the form of volcanoes, earthquakes, cyclones and floods etc. to re-establish stability.
When we look towards worldly stability, our historical evidences on ancient civilisations reveal the attempts made by our ancestors towards stability, from individual to family formation to concept of societies and communities. Many civilisations were at their pinnacle of growth and stability had modern days concept of town planning and facilities of that time.

We are carrying the concepts of family and relations established from our ancestors. This has taught us as to how to take care of each other and share with each other. This type of stability should be considered first suitable step towards meeting the challenges in society, community and so on. When every thing becomes favorable, automatically peace and happiness, prevail and home becomes like heaven on earth.
The close knit family is boon as first step towards salvation.  This stability comes due to stable and permanent fiscal sources in this materialistic world. But after industrialisation and other developments of easy life making tools and instruments, the stability in a family has been disturbed to an extent that the family concept is at stake. We are getting more disturbed with developments and becoming more self oriented. We want every thing with our limited resources, mainly fiscal one. We have forgotten our efficiencies. Pandemic of this twenty first century has added fuel to the fire. The fiscal resources which are already limited, have been on the verge of exhausting. This turmoil has distracted from all the controlling concepts of balance and peace in life, in turn, affecting the journey towards sprituality. No country has been left unaffected from this pandemic.

This pandemis should be treated as open warning from stability, against rat race for unequal developments, ignoring nature’s stability. Interdependence among nations for sustainability is demand of the time. It is the time to forget individual’s supremacy. It is better to opt for minimum requirements for livelihoods to avoid distress and depression. The sprituality and world should be saved from becoming hell for stability . Otherwise nature will bear all consequences, at last and sprituality will be less meaningful.

The magic word “Should “

The grammatical use of the word” should” is not the concern  here. I have a different thought for this magical word. Everyone should walk the talk. Such are the sentences indicating the instruction  to be followed or obeyed. The word “should” simply  implies that something expected is or was missing. It expresses desire. It indicates that the special happening might have changed the person, his or her family, and society  etc. The positive or negative results affect directly as well as  indirectly having long term or short duration influence. The decision to follow  ” should ”  should be with intense care, because any one may use it with malaise intention.

Every one may give  ideas or suggestions. It may be used for self safety both as weapon and as blaming instrument also. This word ” should ” gives rise to series of questions which demarcate imperfections.

The impeachment is better than implementation. After all this is true for ever and it should not be forgotten. Enjoy, it should be healthy. Really this word is having a good time in all time. But be wise and it should be. Depending on mood – it is harsh or it is polite. It is political too.

This word is having great meaning in our life, searching peace, humanity, and sustainability etc., in this world. We should always take care of this word to move towards making the world as heaven. It is a word having a continuity towards completion. The present condition is because of this word. If you think of this word in the context of any profession, you will notice the magic of this word in achieving the mission and objectives. We should be obliged to this magical word ” should “. It is applicable every where. It is like spice. It is a tasty and inspirational word. I think that everyone has mastery in the use of this appealing word.