Cooperation

Everyone has a separate entity, but the existence and continuity need cooperation. It is the primary requirement. One may think of being independent but should be aware that the beginning of life, in humans, demands cooperation. God has made the most developed creature- humans as such –  the most dependent, on each other and nature too.

Cooperation is the soul of the universe. Living and nonliving creatures are dependent on each other. Exchange and exploration vitally play roles in existence. The origin of life on earth became possible only because of cooperation among various essential factors. The same principles still hold.

In nature, ecosystems exist and cooperate for continuity and sustainability. We may observe that birds while eating fruits on trees, take care of living things like insects and ants etc. on the ground by falling some parts of the fruits they eat. If we explore we may get many instances of cooperation for coexistence in nature. In general, nothing is useless for nature. But humans have forgotten the need for cooperation for existence because of technological changes and consider themselves more powerful than nature. They are challenging the rules of balance of nature and the main principle of – live and let live – for their own needs. Nature can take care of all but follows paths of cooperation. We should not forget that in Sanatan Dharma ( Sanatan religion) our ancestors have made rituals to distribute a part of daily meals among birds, animals and others like fish etc. They had explored the importance and need for cooperation.

It is time for humans to be careful and vigilant to avoid extinction at last. We may develop. We may change the course of rivers. We may move on Moon and Mars. We may try to know the life in the universe, elsewhere. We may be the most powerful but we are the weakest creatures on earth. We should not forget that an ant may kill a much bigger and stronger elephant.

God has given unique qualities to humans to excel in but with limits. The moment humans make advancements in the name of progress, the matter of existence get worsens in future. God has made humans strong but emotionally controlled and needy for living.

Humans need the most from nature. We may not dictate terms and conditions to nature. We have to be cooperative as borrowers and not as scavengers for nature’s favouritism.  Cooperation may not be snatched. It needs devotion, sacrifice,  compromise and coordination from all and sundry.

CONFUSION-The story for beginning

It was a valid question. How long may we go together? She asked. For me ” Why ” was involved in this doubt. So I wanted to know the reason for that question before the beginning of an important phase of life.
She replied that the world is changing fast, so we may also change with the world in time. I smiled to know more. She went on to speak on many examples of having negative impacts and broken lives, full of tears. I agreed for a little but tried to convince her to explore deeply as a social and personal researcher.

We have many types of lives, in one life given and fully controlled by the almighty for duration and extent. In that one life, social responsibilities give this opportunity where two are involved to grow together as one entity to procreate. This life is the main centre surrounded by many types of activities and lives expecting responsibilities. This is a fact where competition should not come in mind to dominate over each other. We should not compromise but cooperate and trust each other for the best results. The natural duties assigned to different genders may not be changed. One may assist or cooperate in such functions.

We are social animals, not like wild animals where most of the duties are responsibilities of females, especially towards children. But such is not the case with us, human beings, as we have developed brains to excel. The moment a relation is given a name, the identity changes with certain terms, as an addition in relation. In your question, this marriage is of this kind.

I agree to accept that society has been very much conservative in this matter towards females, having attitudes mainly restricted to the kitchen and family. Those were the days when education was not in approach of all females and self-reliance was a dream to them. Those conditions began changing when the social revolution started and became successful after a lot of resistance. But still, the plight is not completely over because of male dominating attitudes. Even highly educated males are having such attitudes and their animal instincts dominate occasionally.

Now, after a few generations, the pathetic old conditions of females are changing their course, towards equality and equal terms because of the spread of education among them.

She looked at me differently for more. I continued. Please ignore the doubts and confusion because they kill the future and ruin life. Whatever we are at present, is because of our parents who were not knowing our futures and proceeded in their lives with positive attitudes. We always advance towards an unknown future and our positive attitudes pave the way. Everything will never be smooth and relations are tested in thick and thin. We should always remember that two are better than one to face any situation. One should give inspiration about satisfaction and cooperation. No one is perfect. So more doubt on self’s willpower and control may not bring anticipated results. Yes, there is no doubt that every relationship asks for sacrifice, ignorance, adjustments and tolerance up to a certain extent. The relationship of the mother always demands sacrifice. No one may help you here, beyond a limit because it is above all relationships. Even God needs her.

My views helped her a little. She expressed her doubts because of the unsuccessful marriages of her many friends. She said that most of them are facing court cases. So, she has many doubts. ” Many doubts make someone weak and may lead to loneliness,” I said. You should analyse your confidence before taking a final decision but take lessons from your parent’s life. It is true that relations give rights but brings responsibilities also and life is not like one-way traffic. We should drive carefully. Your words and attitudes play important roles in every relationship. If necessary, one should interfere, otherwise, silence is the best medicine. Honest discussions may bring solutions. If you give a chance someone to be a judge for solutions then one may add fuel to the fire as per his or her interests. Whatever, I have told, is not new but needs refreshments through any means. She smiled a little with a meaningful stare, this time. I thought this is the right time to strike at the right place. I told her that you were too thoughtful to spoil the meaningful life ahead. Moreover, your over consciousness is questioning your self-confidence. Perhaps, you are silently accepting and endorsing the old concepts and traditions related to the conditions of women who were ill-treated, most of the time as slaves. Moreover, educated and self-reliant ladies should take the lead to change the male-dominated society. Rest is in your mind to decide. But one thing, we should never forget that our mothers have made us despite limited liberties. You may also change the world in any circumstance.

Finally, I smiled and said that I could not anticipate your questions to be asked in my old age about future generations, which might have come into existence because of your cooperation and sacrifices. You may not kill God gifted instincts of any gender.

At last, I have a question for you- what will be your reaction if you find out that a girl is proposing to a boy for togetherness in future? You should note in any generation,  natural differences in males and females regarding physique, tenderness, nature, functions and responsibilities etc. may never change except in exceptional cases. You may face many such or other types of questions in times to come with more advancements and the spread of education.

This confession brought emotional reactions to her body from tip to toe. She smiled and proceeded on the important future venture in marriage with confidence. I am with her now blessed in madness in life.    

Engagement

We have divided day and night into twenty-four hours. We have most of these times for ourselves. Even then, we think of some engagement for the rest of the time we feel free. The rest of the time is a main controlling enzyme of the quality of life we lead. This controls the “me” time of an individual for the whole life.

Everyone has complete time for themselves in childhood. That time decreases as the age grows but twenty-four hours of day and night remain static. Everyone has to adjust the life every day within this stipulated duration. The making or devastation of life depends on self-controlled activities. So the activities should be well planned considering all  prospects. If they are governed by moral values, the future of individuals and society, in turn, will be progressive, free of all sorts of shortcomings. Otherwise, the reverse is also possible in life, due to immoral practices.

The moment selfishness overshadows all positive norms, the trouble starts, greediness occupies front seats and life becomes hell. These types of thoughts ruin the present and future of family and society.

The past of life is mainly influenced by the behaviours and attitudes of parents, friends and relatives. The best of those should be taken for building the life in the present. This legacy is passed on like that from generation to generation. The dominance of positivity in actions, emotions and attitudes etc. makes life heaven and peace prevails in the surrounding. The godly environment inculcates thoughts – live and let live- everywhere. There may always be additions in life. This type of engagement we may get from religious thoughts.

Engagements should be both professional and personal. Personal engagements, controlled by mental ability and maturity, give direction to all types of engagements. Professional engagements give means to survive and do good for society. Purposeful life depends on both in the changing world.

Sitting idle without ideals is harmful. Engagement is a must. Otherwise, life will be like stagnant water. Stagnant water becomes rotten. Thinking, for the betterment of humanity, should be a continuous process with respect to developments. Short goals pave the path for large goals. These are steps on a stair to reach on top to see the world and give return gifts to the society which has given opportunities and meaning to one’s life.
What the world, we find at present, is built by deep thoughts of ancestors in a progressive manner. We should have similar types of thoughts for engagements.

The negative thoughts may ruin self-life. Selfless is always better than selfishness. The present is the gate to the future. The present demands utmost utilization. What we sow so we reap. The fruit of action may not be personal.

Engagement is extremely private and a privilege of every individual. But its effects may be long-lasting. We may take a few qualities from nature’s creatures for timely engagements. Engagement is the necessary content of life. We should be engaged both mentally and professionally. Engagements as per interests fetch pleasures and satisfactions. The best engagement is forgetting self for others’ welfare. Even God loves it as the first step towards salvation.

Position

I will see you. You don’t know, who am I? You will bear the consequences. These are lines, generally heard  during discussions between any authority and someone on roads or in different offices. This reflects the approach of a man and the importance of a post. Such discussions reveal that someone is applying pressure to do the wrong or to get rid off punishment and penalties etc.

Here the question is about the importance of a  man or the post held by the man. It is true that every post has been empowered with rules and regulations, for good governance and importance of post is also as per hierarchy. But lines of threatening are hurdle and instigate corruption and mitigate the importance of rules, regulations and posts. The position held is not permanent and one day, on retirement, all become same in the society. So, the importance exists in post, not in the post holder. As a common man, ones importance is in abiding the rules and regulations. So, our behaviors are most important for respect and the tags of VIP and VVIP are not permanent. Good times do not last too long.

I remember one incident’s happening, during my  journey by train. One of my friends was with me, without proper reservation. He was having an importance of being son – in – law of an officer holding very high post in bureaucracy. Because of that he was feeling comfortable for facing the ticket checker and police. I got a very good lesson to tackle such situations. I witnessed that during discussion, after listening the threat of post and probable actions against him, the police man said ” you may be whatever you say but, at first, I will beat you and ask for an excuse from your relative officer by saying that every one tells your name and try to get favour and it is true, he does know.” My friend paid the fine and got lesson that post is important but with dignity.

Human and humanity should get importance because posts in various departments in governing bodies, are created for giving services to public and rules and regulations are framed for their smooth execution, to ease the life with safety and security. So, everyone is to satisfy importance of each other but no one is above law.

It is ridiculous to think that he is more important. Everyone is important. If we observe, we find that in nature everything is important, from invisible creatures to big mammals, from thorns to flowers,  and from grass to big trees etc. The ecology of nature is balanced because of all and any disturbance may bring havoc.

Human should learn from the best teacher, the nature, about giving place to everyone.
Our attitudes of giving importance are not limited to posts in service but also in every walk of life. Intelligent students get importance in classroom and schools, human get importance in society by comparing wealth, size of house and no of cars and number of servants etc.

There are different yard sticks for defining the importance, every where. Such attitudes are detrimental to the civilisations and empower to do the wrong things and corruptions spread as termites due to misuse of power. Only respect should get priority.

Everything is important. Everyone is important. When almighty has not differentiated, we may not do like this. Every creature is doing respective business and is equally important. We should not be power crazy. Services with serving attitudes should prevail.

We are to Criticise

I think that We are empowered. We are mainly  naturally, socially and politically empowered. Natural empowerment is not in our control. It appear at defined time and occasions to perform the empowered duties. We may not avoid or change it. Whenever, we try to be against it, we pay its price and suffer, sometimes beyond our  control.

Besides, the humans made social empowerment is result of age old traditions, beliefs and thinkings. It has seen many changes with passage of time and is always subjected to further improvements or amendments as per the needs. It is progressive and may not be imposed on everyone as we are having brain to apply to understand the good or bad for all within limits. Any deviation from this type of empowerment disturbs the social set up and harmony.

In general empowerment gives strength and teaches us discipline to lead our lives. We have liberty to exercise it in favour or have other options to use.

When we think empowering others to control us, we are  supposed to take every step with due diligence and precaution. Otherwise, we  have to face the music. We have to mentally prepare ourselves, in this regard before taking final decision.

When we are to start education in childhood, our guardians or parents choose the schools for our bright future. When we want to choose our profession to be independent and serve, we consider many things in selection of a suitable career for comfortable and rewarding lifestyles. We take all precautionary measures in our lives for health, food, marriage, settlement and social lives etc. from time to time.

We always try to do the best from available resources. We give priorities to our personal interests and act accordingly, to use the empowered duties. But, we become casual in exercising the political empowerment. This type of empowerment has been given in any country after many historical events and sacrifices, atleast, in a country which has the history of independent movements against foreign rulers to get rid off slavery. We are politically empowered to decide the future, developments and improvements in the country for the betterment of natives. We are to write our destiny through elections, handing over the decision making and implementing powers to elected members.

A country, as a unit of the world, has to deal both with other countries to carve out a niche and with internal problems for the stability, an essential requirement for growth and developments. All these depend upon us, as responsibilities, because of the political empowerment. But it is found that we miss the bus every time and criticise the governing political party later.

We, on analysis, find that we are on fault. We, in our service or other working places, for recruitment to any post, prescribe many eligibility criteria ranging from education, job experience, character, marks obtained and mental conditions etc.  Besides, an aspirant has to go through many stages of examinations, physical tests and interviews. We take utmost care in selection but during election, we forget all such criteria and requirements in a candidate who is supposed to run a state or the country. We seldom try to know about the candidate’s past history for suitability.  We only consider by the standards of religion or caste or region or political parties or some thing else.  We keep our nationhood a side. We think a party will act for only one particular section of society and others may wait for their turn in future. We become prey to the allurements and  bounties of free water, free electricity, free food and free housing facilities. But we never consider the cost at which we are getting all these. We, personally, may not distribute in gratis in our limited incomes. But the political parties dare to give, restricting alround developments.

These political parties have serious    concern for having insufficient  means with them , for digital propaganda during spread of pandemic, but have never taken care of students residing in villages, for not having Internet and mobiles to study during online teaching to avoid loss of education. Parties have funds but for themselves. Even then  they are vying with each other to distribute free things but at our cost. Both, the leaders of different parties and we, voters are responsible for this.

We are always ready to criticise the government but do not want to join politics. Whenever, election comes, we forget the past and our criticism. We start harping on the same string, as usual. We, learned people, talk on government’s responsibilities only,  forgetting our onus at the time of election. Ultimately, our rulers are enjoying because of our habits. We, again, become busy in discussions and criticising government on every topics, till the next election comes, as food for our old habits to revive in the form of caste, religion and region etc.

This political empowerment has effects on social empowerment, affecting natural harmony and divide the society. Finally   these both are affecting natural empowerment and we create a new category of criticising empowerment on hitting self goals. It is irony that we want to catch the time but at our own costs. We are not ready to learn or take lessons from our mistakes.

If we elaborate our actions, the same may be seen in international geopolitics – deeply rooted divisions on various levels and lines for many unreasonable reasons.

THAT DAY – A STORY FOR CHANGE

That day, I was witnessing the other face of her mild appearance. Till that time, she was in dilemma, to continue in that city or not. I knew her, as she was one of my classmates. She was not the front or back bencher. Her favourite place was in the middle but I preferred back bench for my comfort in  the classroom. I had attitude from very beginning, which still continued,  to wait and watch, before making companion, then friend if frequency matched. Because of that, I had only a few friends.

She became my friend one day,  after many  long discussions on life and its meaning. She was serious and I was always in light, joyous mood to have concentration. I had my style. One day, I dared to ask about her liking for the middle bench in the classroom. That day,  I had seen, for the first time, a light mood in her, when she smiled and said to have balance between ups and downs. I had guessed that that had been a serious smile. Life needed balance to exist in this biased world for females, leaving homes for a cause – she said. That day she told about the reason of her special psychology.

She had revolted in her conservative family of a village,  for higher study in university and was meeting her needs by self employment. I had got not sympathy but honours for her, since that day.
Naturally, I became more supportive to her. I could not be her shadow but a good friend was in me for her.

That day,  I had seen that she had cried, as her father had given ultimatum to be back to village for marriage. Marriage was the sole responsibility of her father who was impatient to complete it for the sake of  village and community. She had refused but her mother, who was supportive to her, came to settle the issue. I had met her mother, as mediator for her dreams. I got that tradition was the hindrance. She did not want to be in house, helpless like mother and grandmother fully dependent on males whether husband, brothers or sons. She knew that education could only break the ice. Her mother was worried about getting a match in community after her higher qualification.

That day, she had broken on her fate in the hands of males. She wanted to change her destiny. I knew that she was really nervous. I was also helpless. She looked towards me. I could not face her, as I was also student. Her eyes asked support. That language was silent.

That day, I immediately met to an NGO supporting females for education. She was recognised for her will and new light of hope in her life and for many other females. She grabbed the opportunity. Her mother blessed and left with encouraging words to not forget rituals and be the example, for others.

She was finally left alone to sail in the world. She started a job in the same NGO after completion of education. I was also earning in the same city and  frequently meeting her as friend.

One day, during discussion it was concluded that present engagement was not the end of the tunnel. It was decided to hold commanding position through administrative services. Due to her firm attitudes,  commitment and continuous preparation, she was finally on an important chair to deliver for betterment of others.

She was glorified for her achievements. The leader of her community felicitated her. Her father and relatives were abstaining from her because of their egos. But that barrier was broken when she reached her village to lay foundation stone for girls school. Her motivational speech, encouraged girls and villagers took pledge to send their girls out of village for higher education. It was a sea change in the village’s history. She was given credit for her foresightedness that education was important weapon to change destiny. Her father was also getting respect from officials and villagers. She was accepted by her father who was repenting on his traditional attitudes, under pressure of community.

I was happy to note my role in the whole changes in a life and for a good cause. But that was not the end for me. One day, in  an auto taxi she reached to my office without security and  entered into my chamber hurriedly. To my utter surprise, she called my home’s nick name, lovingly given by my mother. She took a seat before me and without any hitch,  told that she did not want discussions on life any more, that day, because she had discussed a lot with me. She wanted to give her life and took someone’s life. She wanted to give meaning and momentum to her life for future and continuity of her legacy. I told that I could not help in that extremely private matter. She laughed and said that was our matter and no one else was involved. She had decided to give ritualistic name to our friendship for social acceptance. I discussed a lot but she had taken permission from my parents. She was knowing that I had denied marrying many times. That day, she was woman of substance, eager to excell in all aspects of life. That day, her smile attacked on my nerves. I was the sailor for her – yours faithfully.

Ultimately, she took my hand and my life for her to be one. The good deeds continued. Story of life began and got meaning by the grace of almighty for others, from that day.

We were reciprocal to each other